I just got back from visiting an aunt and I am experiencing a flare. She is a workolholic and does have her own problems, but she doen't get it!My fathers wife was there too. She told me that she thinks she too has FM... for the umpteenth time! I hate it when people hear of or see me in pain and fatigued, and say they they must have it too! they are functioning and capable are not in the throes of a flare and don't have any idea what it feels like... you know. I have gained weight, like so many others and the women say that I should try to exercise more, they say it nicely enough and I know they want the best for me, but I am sick of this. I feel old and tired, ugly and fat. This exhausts me more. and I needed to vent. I am so sick of people minimizing my experience, I don't beg for sympathy, i try to ignore the symptoms, but the people who say that they are tired, and are just tired- not like us- have no right to make themselves feel better by saying stuff like that. Thanks for listening.