This is probably going to be the weirdest poll you've ever taken but it's true! Only the names have been changed to protect the innocent, and not so innocent. I really need to know and try to understand what the majority of people here think about this situation. I don't think it will change my mind-I can't back down on my standards, but I guess I'm hoping for some validation. OK, here goes. I have had a very close friend-we're talking 20+ years, until 2 years ago. She and her husband are missionaries (won't name the organization), Protestant, though. Have been since before they knew me. I knew she liked to drink alcohol when we were friends, and I was ok with the occasional wine/beer, etc. But it started going beyond that-WAY beyond that a few years ago. It was getting to the point that she was carrying it with her when she visited people, and she would go into their bathrooms, and put it in her coffee, etc. When she'd be at my house, she'd be drinking by 10:am, you get the point. She'd call around 2m, and she'd be snookered. OK, that's just part of it. They rely on God-fearing, decent people for their monetary support. These people send them X amount of money each month so they can 'spread the gospel'. The 2nd part of this is, once, in a drunken-stupor, she confided in me that she and hubby are also members of a nudist colony. And I mean ACTIVE members. They regularly visit the colonies on their way back and forth to missionary seminars, etc, and while on vacations. Of course, no one but me knows about this. I finally told her that I just couldn't allow her lifestyle to be a part of my relationship with her anymore. I have friends who have been supporting them for years! Good friends who are DECENT people! And, I actually did tell one of my closer friends what was going on, and they dropped their support immediately. That was 2 years ago. Just recently, she started emailing me again, and we tried to strike up our relationship again. It was hard-I do miss her and the good times we had-she was a very kind and caring friend. But, the bottom line is, I CANNOT tolerate what they do for a living, and add that to what they do that they can't tell to anyone, because it is not something that their supporters would agree on. Do you get where I'm coming from? So, anyway, our relationship ended again, because 1) she hasn't changed, and 2) I can't accept this. What do you guys think. Do you think it's ok for them to do whatever they want in the privacy of their own lives, while other people support them? I mean, Jim Baker and Jim Swaggart lost their entire ministries for similar activities, did they not? What do you all feel about this? I really appreciate feedback here! THANKS!!