In case y ou wondered where I was

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lilaclover30, Sep 20, 2008.

  1. lilaclover30

    lilaclover30 New Member

    DH was in the hospital, then the swing bed, and now a nursing home. They are trying to give him rehab to learn to walk with walker again and to stand from chair. The hospital was 17 mil. away but the nursing home is only 3.

    Our kids have been here off and on and last weekend was the only one that I was home alone. I really didn't mind it but I have so appreciate their caring enough to come. IOne is 345 mi., the # 1 son, 2 hr. and 20 min. and #2 son 2 hr. so it is hard for them to just drop in.

    I go out to see him each afternoon from 1:30 to 4;00, 4:30/ Then I am soooo tired. I try to get what I need to do done in the a.m.

    i am quit going to coffee each morning as I have done for well over 35 yr. one newcomer jusgt yelled at me to NOt drive to our shopping and specialist city. The next day, a "former" friend, the new comer and our lady pastor boty pointed their fingers at me and all yelled the same thing over. I was devastated!!!!! Then the next day those 3 plus a wonderful male friend, or so we thought, just formed a group to talk among themselves. I can not take that anymore. I just came home and cried.

    I am so tired and exhausted.....Last evening I had TMJ which I haven't had in years-----I justr couldn't stand the [pain and just went to bed with my kitty cat friend.k Glad I at least have one friend, besides all of you.

    i am old and ill, I guess, and thew baby boomer generation I guess don't like them!!

    I have a couple of other things to tell you but will do it on chit-chat vol.

    Sorry I was gone so long. i do hope to do better , if things settle down.

    God's blessing and gentle Hugs,

  2. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry to hear about your situation and how those people, supposed friends are treating you. It doessn't make any sense to me at all. I can't understand why they were yelling at you not to drive. Do you think that they were telling you to take it easy or what? How far did you have to go to have coffee with them every morning. The whole thing is just to weird for me. No matter what, you need some rest and don't need any more stress for sure.

    So sorry to hear also that DH is in the Nursing Home. However, it is probably a lot easier for you and closer for you to get to see him as he goes through his rehab. or at least after he has done his exercising and learning to walk again with the walker. If he does alot of his rehab in the morning as many of them do he may be too pooped to even chat with you. Hope he is treating you well. Just remember that he is probably warn out if you get to see him in the afternoon. Try not to take it to personally but I know it is hard sometimes.

    So glad that your #1 son brought you a computer and set it up for you. That is wonderful. Hope it continues to work well. Even the best of them can drive you crazy sometimes. I know it does me sometimes.

    Now I hope this will help you to keep in contact with us al that love and miss you when you are gone. I was gone to Alaska for 11 days and got ready for a hurricane that didn't come our way and then came hurricane IKE that causedsome damage and took off our power for 5 days. Just got it back a couple of days ago. Others, especially those on the TX and Louisiana coastline got lots of damage and some even completely lost their home. More about that on the Porch and Chat board.

    Gottga run for now but remember that we lover you and missed you while you were gone.

    Bye for now and hope to see you more on the Porch. I did see you there just now when I checked in but wanted to check out this message that Julie told me about from you.

    Hugs and blessings,

  3. rockgor

    rockgor Well-Known Member

    Sorry this has been such a difficult time for you and hubby.
    That's great that your kids could come and give you support.

    Like Granni, I'm not sure what the friends were trying to convey.

    Hope you can get lots of rest.

  4. sisland

    sisland New Member

    Alot going on for you right now!,,,I'm glad you are able to rest and that your Kids are comming to visit!!,,,,,I'm praying for you and Hubby,,,remember it's also important to take care of you!,,,,,,,,,HUgs!,,,,Sis
  5. mysticbrit

    mysticbrit New Member

    Dear Joan,

    As others have said, you have touched our hearts and we're always here when you need some emotional support.

    I can't imagine what is wrong with those people in your coffee group. What in the world are they thinking to behave so cruelly?????

    Have you considered asking one or more of them why they're behaving so badly? On the other hand, these actions are beyond explainations. Harboring a mean heart is a choice I'll never understand.

    You and your husband are in my prayers.

    Sending you love and many soft hugs,
  6. alaska3355

    alaska3355 New Member

    Just to let you know that I'm praying for you and your hubby......maybe you could start a coffee group in another spot.......anyway, take care of yourself, dear one.

  7. fibromickster

    fibromickster New Member

    Of course we wondered where u have been. I have missed and worried about you so much.

    Please know you are still thought of each day and you and your family are in my prayers also everyday.

    We love you, please keep in touch.

  8. jmq

    jmq New Member

    I am so sorry you are dealing with so much! I just wanted to send you a BIGGGGGG HUGGGGG!!!

  9. springwater

    springwater Active Member

    So sorry to hear this.

    I dont understand also. Is this a group of people you visit to have coffee with?

    Whatever their intention, it sure wasnt thoughtful of them to have said it in such a way to hurt you, and your husband ill and all.

    But like all things, this too shall pass, and you will feel better. Perhaps it will all get solved too.

    God Bless