I'm new here and haven't seen anything on this subject. I'm married almost 31 years, 2 married children, 2 grandchildren. My husband is a wonderful man who for the most part is very understanding about my illness. He does alot around the house and lets me rest when I need to. The problem is as my fibro has progressed greatly over the past 2 years, my interest in sex has greatly decreased. He, however, has a very high sex drive and wants his needs met. He's tired of hearing how I hurt or am exhausted. We do go very long periods of time without being together but I do help him with release in the meantime. He's to the point where he wants his needs met when he wants it or he wants sex never again. And he wants me to come up with a plan of how often I can give him sex. In the meantime I get no kissing, no touching or cuddling, zilch. How on earth am I supposed to predict how I'm going to feel to tell him how often we'll have sex? I gave him a frequency & that didn't work. He's going to need more frequently. I just don't know that I can commit to more frequently. But I sure can't live the rest of my life without kissing & cuddling either. I am emotionally a wreck because of this. I need to hear how others are dealing with this issue.