I can finally say it. It's taken me this long to really come to terms with it. She's been my best friend since '96 and her daughter has been my daughter's best friend since birth in '98. I've approached her with conversation, and she continually just says that it's her life, she's busy, I live too far away (15 minutes away and I offer to drive the children to see each other to play) or she has plans with her new found friends. I'm glad she has friends, I just feel really hurt that at the time I need her the most, and my daughter needs her daughter the most (they are the BEST of friends) she is staying away, and is keeping our girls apart. The girls still talk on the phone, but that's it. Our girls play volleyball together and my friend invited one of her other friends' daughter to join, which was great; she's a wonderful child, and the lady is just as nice as can be. Well, it's really close to my house, so I had hopes that she'd allow her daughter to come over after the games occasionally since they are on Fridays, even spend the night. Well, the last game was this past Friday, and she whisked her daughter secretively away (probably so as not to allow my daughter's feeling's to be hurt) and she and the other friend on the team went to another friend's home who lives further away than I do. That wouldn't be a concern, but she's always used that as an excuse for not driving her over, so many times I've driven to get her myself. There are no more good times. No more times together at all. I just had my 40th birthday. The day went by, and she actually forgot it -- and spent lunch with her other friends. When she realized that my daughter wasn't at practice that night, she did call, wondering if my daughter was sick. I told her no, we had had a family celebration. She still didn't get it...so I told her. Initially, rather that being apologetic, she was totally defensive, telling me how busy she has been. People, she has NEVER forgotten, and neither have I. We have always, always, spent our birthday's together if they are weekdays, and if not, then we've set aside another time for just us. Well, that was October 17th, and she still says we are getting together, but I know it won't happen. I'm truly not angry, I am honestly just so absolutely hurt that I cannot express it fully. She has stood by me through thick and thin before, and so have I for her. She is, however, one who likes the limelight, very, very much. From the moment I was finally diagnosed, she acted different...it was real...it had a name...it was something she didn't have. As much as I know she would hate to have this disease, I think she believes I get attention because of it. I know that most will say she's not really a true friend for if she were, she would not have abandoned me now, and wouldn't have allowed this to affect her daughter's "best friend" relationship" with my daughter. Possibly that is true. I don't want to see that. I see my daughter question it almost every single day, and she has grown to resent my friend. Though my daughter is only 9, she sees that her friend's mom is keeping them apart. I could really use some advice or input from someone. We've tried to make new friends for my daughter, to help her move on, but she just hasn't connected with anyone like she did with this other child. They were like sisters, having grown up together, and having moms who were such great friends that people often asked US if we were sisters. Thanks for reading, and for all your advice.