I have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia since 1990 after years of trying to get help. I managed to get this stuff under control for years and now it has all jump up on me again. My husband was always a real support for me, however, in 1997 he was in a really bad accident and suffered permanent brain damage. WE have been fighting with doctors and lawyers since. To add to this "fun" story this past summer we were on vacation with our four children and got rear ended by a drunk driver. This really started all my symptoms back up. Fortunately none of us had to be hospitalized. We came back home, got a rental truck while mine was being fixed and got rear-ended by another drunk driver. Now we have a whole new set of doctors and lawyers to deal with. The insurance company didn't want to pay so we had to get a lawyer just to try to get our medical bills paid. I had to go to the school and try to get some intervention for my son because after the accident he lost his ability to read and concentrate. My support group has vanished. Two of my best friends moved and one of my friends died. No one really understands fibromyalgia and how stress makes it worse. When you put my husband under stress because of his brain injury he just quits functioning. He can't think or do anything and he has to go to bed. Everything is falling on me and I am breaking under this pressure. We had to become self-employed because my husband can't work without constant supervision. We have no medical insurance so I have just managed my fibromyalgia with diet, natural substances, meditation, etc. I just can't seem to get back on top of it since the wreck. I read a posting that talked about how the spouse of a person with fibromyalgia felt and she talked about how everything fell on her, well that is how it was before the brain injury. My husband took care of things because I was sick. Now no matter what I have to take care of everything. I know I need to reduce my stress but I just don't see how I can. I forgot to mention that last week we found out that my husband has a blood clot in his leg and is now on shots, medication and crutches. I guess I just wanted someone to listen to me and know what I am going through. I can't be sick for myself because I'm to busy having to take care of everyone else. I can feel myself getting sicker and I am scared. "Normal" people don't understand what stress does to someone with fibromyalgia. I just needed to feel like someone who understands where I am coming from could hear me. I guess I just need some hugs.