My wife has been diagnosed with Fibro 3 years ago. Its hard.We thankfully were approved for disability for her. Covers her meds, but every Dr just wanted to throw more scrips at us. Now I have been laid off. $ is tight as I'm sure it is with everyone. So we are trying to cut back. She was feeling great and then we got into a head on collision, now were back to square one. Not just with the pain, but with the arguing as well. Nothing I ever say is right. We have a couple of great (no arguing) days a month. Weather, her period, my own stupidity add them all up and its a messy stew. Shes 30 and I'm a healty 38. I never get sick and its starting to piss me off. Why did this happen to her? Guys as a rule are'nt great communicators, but I try. We were so thankfull to have been approved for Disability, but now with layoffs shes stressing $ and wishes she could work. Feels guilty she doesnt help more. I try to tell her its ok. We'll be ok. She feels sorry for herself, starts the day out beating herself up about why her. i try to tell her instead of putting yourself into depression first thing in the am feel happy for the good things. You cant start out beating yourself up. your fibros gonna o that soon enough. Yeah your hurting, be happy we got disability, and unemployment, that we lived throught the accident. She tells me I dont understand. i will never understand her pain. i know after the crash I was a bear with a sprained back, so I know that being in pain makes people goruchy, and I cant imagine4 living with it every day. But damn, try to stop Fing yelling at me all the time. Or if i dont ask her constantly if shes ok or where she hurts them i am ignoring her. She says you never sak me if i'm ok or how I'm doing. I reply it's because you tell me all the time your hurting, your back hurts, or how bacd your hips are. I dont have to ask because you keep me up to date. then she says well i'll just stop complaning then. Forget sex. I dont ask enough, or I dont love her because I dont ask, so I say I dont ask if your telling me all day about how bad you hurt, and how your hps or ribs are killing you. then thats my fault because i dont ask either. So I ask, every day and night near bedtime, no,no ,no no , im hurtiing to bad, not tonight, no, too much pain, so after a copuple of weeks I stop asking and figure she will say something when she feels ok. Vicious circle. Husbans any Ideas, comments greatly appreciated. Ladies please feel free to help me out, give suggestions.