lonely

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by lazygrant, Oct 25, 2005.

  1. lazygrant

    lazygrant New Member

    i'm 45 yrs old. i'm alone and don't know if i want to be alone or not. i think i don't want to be alone, but its because i am not well and therefore am not good enough to be with someone, and who would want me with medical issues. i mean i have good days too, but what about thed bad days. how do you explain this dd. my husband was very patient and understanding with it. do u just come right out and tell someone that your ill? they'll think your nuts, like most of the population does. i am lonely!
  2. Rosiebud

    Rosiebud New Member

    your husband so much.

    Take your time finding someone else and when you do find someone you want to be with then tell him about your illness. If he cant accept it then he's not the man for you.

    It's so difficult with this illness, it's not as if we can socialise like 'normal' people.

    Take care of yourself.

    love
    Rosie
  3. beth0818

    beth0818 New Member

    I AM RELATIVELY YOUNG, 27 AND JUST ABOUT TO GET MARRIED. WHEN I WAS DATING, I WOULD WAIT ABOUT 2 OR 3 WEEKS BEFORE REVEALING MY ILLNESS. WHEN I AM MAKING NEW FRIENDS I DO THE SAME BUT I TRY NOT TO SCARE THEM AWAY. I SAY THAT IT IS HARD FOR ME TO DO THINGS SOMETIMES AND WHEN I AM TOO TIRED I TRY TO BE FUNNY ABOUT IT. I SAY THINGS LIKE, SORRY, I'M AN OLD WOMAN THIS WEEK. I TRY NOT TO STRESS THEM OUT. ONCE I FEEL CLOSE TO SOMEONE I HAVE MORE SERIOUS TALKS WITH THEMABOUT MY ILLNESS SO THAT THEY ARE AWARE THAT ITS NOT A LUGHING MATTER.
  4. LEFTYGG

    LEFTYGG Member

    im sorry youre so lonely youve been through a lot.i hope you meet someone and if they are right for you you DD wont matter.dont rush into anything take it slow hugs to you
  5. NyroFan

    NyroFan New Member

    Laxygrant:
    My husband left me because I was sick. How is that for a kick in the butt. I am well rid of him but do get very lonely sometimes and feel oppressed.
    Hugs,
    NyroFan
  6. brie

    brie New Member

    Honey , Believe it or not....You could have a mate right there and you could still feel very lonely. THe secret is to finding the one you were intended for in life. You could tell him you have the worst diease out there and you'ld have to beat him with a stick to get him away from you. I know being sick is lonely but being sick with the wrong person is called a very long life. Good Luck and I am praying for that man to find you and for you to have your eyes open enought to know he's the one.