Loving Ourselves Unconditionally

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by usanagirl, May 24, 2006.

  1. usanagirl

    usanagirl New Member

    May 25

    Love yourself into health and a good life of your own.
    Love yourself into relationships that work for you and the other person. Love yourself into peace, happiness, joy, success, and contentment.
    Love yourself into all that you always wanted. We can stop treating ourselves the way others treated us, if they behaved in a less than healthy, desierable way. If we have learned to see ourselves critically, conditionally, and in a diminshing and punishing way, it's time to stop. Other people treated us that way, but it's even worse to treat ourselves that way now.
    Loving ourselves may seem foreign, even foolish at times. People may accuse us of being selfish. We don't have to believe them.
    People who love themselves are truly able to love others and let others love them. People who love themselves and hold themselves in high esteem are those who give the most, contribute the most, love the most.
    How do we love ourselves? By forcing it at first. By faking it if necessary. By "acting as if." By working as hard at loving and liking ourselves as we have at not liking ourselves.
    Do things for yourself that reflect compassionate, nuturing, self-love.
    Embrace and love all of yourself-past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself.
    If we think and believe negative ideas, get them ou in the open quickly and honestly, so we can replace those beliefs with better ones.
    Ask for help, for time; ask for what you need.
    Learn to stop your pain, even when that means making difficult decisions. Do not unnecessarily deprive yourself.
    Stop explaining and justifying yourself. When you make mistakes, let them go. We learn, we grow, and we learn some more. And through it all, we love ourselves. We work at it, then work at it some more.

    Today, I will work at loving myself. I will work as hard at loving myself as I have at not liking myself. Help me let go of self-hate and behaviors that reflect not liking myself. Help me replace those with behaviors that reflect self-love. Today, God, help me hold myself in high self-esteem. Help me know I'm lovable and capable of giving and receiving love.

    Love,
    usanagirl
  2. Marta608

    Marta608 Member

    Thank you.

    Marta