I know this is the age old complaint...mother-in-laws can be ruthless. I am wondering if other people have the same problem as I do. My family is pretty understanding and supportive of my illness, even though they DON"T understand the disease and are scared, feel helpless and often don't know what to say. But HIS mother is driving me crazy!!!She is only concerned about what this is doing to "her baby" and the kids---how put out everyone has been by this and financial impact and extra load my husband has picking up the slack (truthfully, he does shopping and running kids around--that' the only extra...in fact since I have been sick I stay home all the time which frees him up for more fishing and other sports...I think he kinda likes me home--but of course wishes I could beat this) Anyway, his mom has always been really brassy but is really aloof about my illness. She has been going through her own battles with non-hodgkins lymphoma and a breast removed last year. It has been a 6 year walk- on- eggshells since she was diagnosed. The family is not allowed to talk much about her illness...I think they grew up beleiving if you just don't talk about it, IT will go away. Part of that has filtered wown to my husband. I am so tired of her input about my illness. I immediately had to give up work with a virus that knocked me on my butt and literally collapsed at work. She is the hardest person to "convince" that this "imaginary or invisible" disease has reduced me to barely getting to help with family at home--let alone work or do any social stuff. She keeps saying "I'm SURE it's just your thyroid, I had hypothyroid and it does make you tired." And little digs about when I am going to feel well enough to go back to work. The last time we were at her house, a few weeks ago, another virus had attacked and I was in BIG flare. This was the first time she saw how my "REAL" world is.I spent the day in a bed while the WHOLE family went out for brunch and then visited. I visited the ER on the way home---trouble breathing. She is so sure to judge and even says, it is giving up when you give up your life like work and social stuff, etc. I cannot get mad at her because she is going through stuff herself. She is able to continue working 30 hours per week and just thinks I should push to get back to work myself. You guys talk about getting the "toxic' people out of our lives, but I wouldn't want to start anything between my husband and his mom. What the heck do you do or say to someone who you are "stuck" with and is so boisterous? The stress she causes me really ticks me off!!!