And I don't know what to do. My mother and SIL got into a major fight over the summer. It ballooned way out of control, and now I am wondering if it can ever be fixed. Too much time has passed, and too many horrible things have been said. It is really starting to tear my entire family apart, because their argument is now affecting everyone, not just them. DH and I keep being put into the middle, and I am so sick of it!! The argument itself is really stupid. It was something that should have been resolved within a day of the incident. But my SIL decided she was going to stay angry until my mom apologized, since it involed my nephew (her son). I know my mom, and she will never apologize - it's just the way she is. But my SIL said she is sick of her getting away with things, so she dug her heels in, and just won't budge. So much has happened since then (many family health and financial problems). My mom was in the hospital and my brother never brought the kids to see her, so she is angry about that. I have spent COUNTLESS hours on the phone with them both, and spent so much timne with emails too. I tell them both over and over that I don't want to be involved, but they will tell eachother things I said, and then get mad at ME!!! I have had a couple parties since then, and no one talks to eachother, and it is extremely uncomfortable for me. My grandparents are now all upset, and they said they don't even want to come to my house anymore, because they don't want to see SIL's faimly or my father (who they hate). Their was a big fall-out at my baby's Baptism party, and I am so upset (I just found out what really happened) because they should not all be acting so childish. That party was for my daughter, and they all got mad and left with no explanation. There is so much more to this story....I could write a novel. But I am just at my wit's end. I can actually see both sides, but they both refuse to see the other person's side, and refuse to just "give in" and stop this already. Whenever I talk to my mom, she screams at me (when she really wants to be screaming at them) - then she gets mad at me, and tells me I am taking their side (which I am not). Then she'll throw in that she doesn't understand why I defend them because they are always talking badly about me behind my back. I just don't know what to believe. This is tearing an entire family apart. And I don't know what to do to help fix it (even though I don't want to be involved, like I said, they involve me anyway). Please give me some advice....what do I do? Oh and thanks for letting me vent here.