hi i hope everyone is having a good day today. i just need to vent some sad feelings. my husband and i had a bad fight last night. he said some things to me that hurt me so deeply. i tried telling him that i need a little more help around the house (childcare, cooking, cleaning). he really is a dream husband. we recently started a business so we could make more money. as a result, he has been busy with that. i do understand this. i just do not have my life under control with this illness. so, any change in the structure of my daily life could spiral into a flare. i just came out of three flares over the past 2 months. we disagreed about the way something was handled. what hurt me was the comments he made about me not doing much. he said that other women can handle these things and that i need to be more of a woman. he was soooo angry. he was yelling and cursing. i tried to explain that i am sick and it is hard to do things during the day. he said it wasn't like i was doing much anyway. i was so hurt. he really is the only ally i have left. each day we just become distant. i have no one to talk to about my challenges. my mom is so kind and helpful to others but she doesn't talk to me about this. i try not to focus on these things. i cannot work and rely on him totally for support. i feel like he could abandon me at anytime. i was the overachiever, so it is hard to be at someone else's mercy. i really need prayers for hope. thanks for listening.