I originally posted this on the FM/CFS board...but it needed to come here and not clog up that board with personal things.. If you don't know the first part of this.. After 28 years of marriage..and 5 of FM..the last year pretty rough for me...My husband announced that he cannot be my caretaker for the rest of his life. He does not take care of me...I just cannot do everything as quickly in the house..but I still do it all..and I have a difficult time doing outside of the house fun activities..but I am able to go out sometimes. We do entertain in our home fairly regularly,mostly because we relocated a year ago from WI to KY..and many MANY people have come to see us down here...and stayed for between 1 and 4 nights...So it isn't as though I am sitting in a chair or in bed...and shutting out the world. But..he seems to be having a major midlife crisis..and has let me know that he won't wreck the rest of his life the way the last year has gone...and he can't take care of me..he can't and wont. He will, according to him figure out a way to make sure I am financially cared for because working for me is out of the question at this point. He also has told me that the rheumatolgist that told me to see a psychiatrist was probably right..and that would probably fix my fibromyalgia because it is probably mostly in my head. The man has never done any research about this..and obviously is choosing not to believe anything I have told him about the research on FM at this point in time. So, I feel like someone has cut me off at the knees. And ripped out my heart. And the FM is making me totally exhausted and in pain. I dont' think I have ever felt this lousy in my entire life. I do have 3 grown kids ( I am 54)...and 2 have financially secure lives..and they are all supportive and have offered a place to live..and even to support me financially if that is what I need. But I don't want to do that to them. We 'mortgaged the farm' to take the risk to come to KY...and we are cash poor ...and at this moment the 'wisest' path financially is for us to figure out how to exist in the house for about a year till the new business we are trying to get rolling can provide the income necessary for us both. At least that is HIS plan right now... He told me he is waiting to talk to a lawyer till he can buy me out. Now many of you will think he is a jerk..and right now I agree..but this is a man that after a lot of rough ups and downs in the first ten years..has spent the last 17 years being a wonderful husband and father... But I think a sick wife..wore him out..and I think he is showing classic mid life crisis symptoms. If you have read all this..thanks! I appreciate it. If you have something in your life that is similar...or if you just want to show support...I would so appreciate. And if you came here to check on me from the FM board...I SO APPRECIATE you!