Hello. I am new to the board and other than falling in tears of which I've done numerous times, I thought I would come here. Here is my story in brief: My father passed away about 2 years ago after spending 65 years with mom. He was 82, congestive heart failure, diabetes. I cared for mom for months in between work, schedules and the unbelief of 2 other sisters who reside minutes away and never assisted at all. I am 45. After caring for mom in her lifeloss of dad, the stress built on me over time as I lived over a couple of hours away and was trying to fit everything, including my own life into this realm. I ended up losing my job of 7 years, lost my apartment and everything came crashing in. Later to find I never greived over my Dad, didn't have time as I was absorbed with mom. When it hit, it hit hard. Depression set in full boar. I made a decision to move out of the state and start over. Mom was doing better. Since having moved my life, mom has suffered 2 strokes over time and I traveled 2500 miles to help her. (No, the sisters living minutes away as well as the 3 grown adult grandchildren did nothing, not even a visit). Once again she was stablized and I provided in home care from a senior center. A temp. caregiver who would drop in 3-4x a week. Once again, I am back here. Having to move from my new life out of state to care for mom. She wouldn't let anyone in her home, refused anyone but me and in this whole time, I am still unemployed because of the travel, etc. (I have not been able to get settled in 2 years now.) Mom is very mean to me. Verbally abusive as she was when I was growing up. Dad was my light. Here I am being the caretaker of her in "her" home, with luggage all tossed in the living room. There is no conversation, no love, no bind here...she only wants "me" to be "obligated" as she said, being her daughter. She refuses to let anyone else help. I know she can see I am falling apart. No income, my home is 2500 miles away, no friends here, nothing. I look exhausted, yet can't sleep, eat very little because I am sick to my stomach all the time under this stress. I cry...alot now. She just keeps telling me to "do". I know she can not live safely alone. She is also almost stone deaf and suffers from numerous health (life-threatening medical conditions), but her attitude is awful. Yet, in front of doctors she will brag on how wonderful I am and all I am doing...within minutes away from that situation, she condemns me. I've tried talking to the 2 siblings...they said, "it's your problem, not ours"..verbatim. The grandkids (in their 30-40's) only came by prior to my return to demand money they will be given (very little) now, instead of after she passes. *Oh, one sister did come over. To remove anything she ever gave to mom. She said she didn't want to do it after she died. Can anyone believe this? I am in a nightmare. I am living out of suitcases. They own their own beautiful 3-4 bedroom homes with no children left. They are gainfully employed, I have been unemployed for some time now with no income at all of any kind whatsoever. I am her power of atty. for healthcare and overall finances and anything else you can think of, but am ready to walk away from it all. Is this normal? Mom does not understand, or maybe she does, that I can NOT do this by myself. I am not well either. I've been here a few days and have cried each day. I have circles under my eyes and look so drained. When I walked into what was a very clean house a year ago, was to the pointo of nausea witht the oder and what looked like she refused any assistance in housekeeping. Her pets utilized the house for their bathroom and she just covered it with paper...she was not like this before! And she said nothing was wrong with it now. I've spent 3 days of scrubbing, mopping, sanitizing (just to use the bathroom), riding the home of ants, doing wash, watering lawns, running errands (more tomorrow for her, with her) and being belittled for all of it. What am I to do?