I am normally so optimistic...I guess its just my turn to vent. I am so damn idealistic and I think that is my big problem. I expect so much out of the world. I am not usually too disappointed, but sometimes, something happens, and I come crashing back down to reality. When that happens, especially when it happens twice in such a short period of time, I get rather depressed. The first incident was with my husband, while he was at work. We had some serious car problems last week, which were not covered by the warranty. That ended up costing us an arm and a leg and my husband was unable to go to work for four days. He works 50 minutes away from where we live, and there is just no public transportation that will get him there, especially if he works third shift. The buses stop running at 5 pm and well, he wouldn't be done until 10 pm. Our roommate goes to work at 9 pm, so she wouldn't be able to pick him up. He would be stuck, unless he took a cab, which would be ridiculously expensive. There is another branch of his store nearby and he has been trying to get transferred there for some time. In fact, the store manager there (I will call her Nancy) has been actively trying to convince his current store manager (I will call her Jill) to move him. It would only take him five minutes to get to work, instead of 50 minutes, and he would be able to take a bus there if the car happened to break down. He has told Jill about my DD and has explained that it would help him to take better care of me if he were closer to home. Jill told him that it would be a bad move for him. Jill has been promising for a really long time to train him for a manager position. He is currently a team lead. Jill said that the store that is closer doesn't do as much business as the store he is currently at, so he would be looked over for a manager promotion. Jill said that in fact, he would probably never even receive manager training. Well, another manager (I will call him Jim) was transferred to my husband's store due to manager shortage. Before Jim was transferred he was working at the location that is closest to us. Jim and my husband spoke at some length when he returned to work after the car was fixed. Jim asked my husband why he kept turning down Nancy's offer, since it would help him to be so much closer to home. My husband was confused...what offer? Jim said that Nancy would be losing one of her managers next year, due to a new store opening. Nancy is very interested in having my husband work at her store so she can train him as a manager, so he can take over when the old manager transfers to the new store. My husband told Jim what Jill had said, and Jim said that was nonsense. He said that whoever gets management training is up to the current store manager and their recommendation, regardless of the location or the amount of business they do. Keep in mind that my husband works his butt off...he easily does the work of four people, especially in his department. He really cares, takes his time, pays close attention to detail, and gets it done right the first time. He never stops moving while he is there and he takes pride in what he does. In fact, Jill constantly brags to every other manager she can find about how wonderful he is. I may be wrong, my husband may be wrong...but what it looks like to us, is that she never intended on training him as a manager. If she did, she would probably lose him to another location. And then, she would have to try to replace him and that would be rather difficult for her to accomplish. So basically, she has been lying to him for selfish reasons. The part that hurts the most is that she has been pretending to have his best interests at heart. She knows how damn sick I am and she knows how much it would help us out for my husband to work closer. Not only that, but it would help us out SO much if he got that promotion. We would have more money to pay for my medications, doctor visits, etc. I might even be able to take some time off from work for awhile. But no. All she cares about is keeping him around so she doesn't have to replace him. I mean, yeah...it says something about his level of commitment that she values him so much. But it says something about her scruples that she would lie to him like that, at the expense of him and our family. It really hurt my feelings so much. I thought she cared about both of us. I guess I was wrong. The second incident happened on Monday. Due to the fact that the car broke down and I had to pay $600 out of pocket, I couldn't afford to make a car payment this month. And probably not next month, either. I spoke with our lien holder and he suggested that we come in to refinance. He said they would forgive us a month of payment and lower our payments. Sounded good to me, so I made an appointment. He insisted, quite forcefully, that we come in at 4:30, which was a little hard on me. I had to leave work early because of it. So I asked if we could make the appointment for 5:00, but he insisted on 4:30. I asked him if we would get in and out right away and he assured me that it would take no time at all. I made it VERY clear to him that it would have to happen fast so I could get home and rest. If I can't rest at night, its almost impossible, if not impossible for me to make it to work the next day. If I don't make it to work, then I don't get paid, and neither does the car payment. (Not altogether true...I still have PTO left. But not much and I like to save it for emergencies, especially this close to the end of the year) So he sweet talked me and told me that everything would be just fine. We went in on Monday and sat around for an hour and a half before his dumb butt finally came in to see us. But that time, I was slumped over on the desk, resting my head and stretching my back out. I was in agony from sitting in that horrible, uncomfortable chair. My husband was furious. He told the guy that he really needed to hurry so he could get me home and put me in bed. The guy just laughed it off. So my husband asked him what was so funny? Did he not see how sick I was and how much I needed to get home and sleep? The guy apologized and processed our loan application as fast as he could. Although, by that point, it didn't feel fast enough. He came back in to have us sign the papers and he had added on a protection plan and a maintenance plan!! We already have a stinking warranty...why the hell do we need a second warranty? I agreed with the loan protection plan. That would help us out in case of emergencies. And it was only an extra $2 a month. Fine. But the stupid second warranty would have cost us $55 a month!!! And he was just going to tack that one without saying anything to us. I lost it and started yelling. I was fed up. That would have raised our car payment, not decreased it, like he promised. Well, my husband had to pull me back into my chair and calm me down, because I was ready to strangle the guy. He apologized, took off the second warranty, and came back in with new paperwork for us to sign. I looked it over, signed it, and threw it down, saying, "Can we go now?" I was SO angry. Not to mention the fact that I am still exhausted from not being able to rest and from being that stressed out. What is it with people not taking me seriously and trying to take advantage of my husband and I? Do they not realize how serious my DD is...or how much worse it could get if I don't take care of myself? How much more clear do I have to be with people to get them to realize that when I say I need to rest or need my husband to work closer, I AM SERIOUS? Is it really that damn hard to understand? SHEESH!! Sorry, I am just pissed off and disillusioned right now. Sorry this was so long. Thanks for listening to me vent.