I am new here and I have not been diagnosed with FMS. For the last few years I have developed alot of the FMS symptoms. When I mentioned FMS to my doc about a year ago he didn't seem to say anything, so I just dropped it. But I am getting more tired and more lazy. I just want to feel better. So I found this board. Sorry this might be a little long. I also found a Fibromyalgia & Fatigue Center in Philly that I made an appoitment. It is out of network, but I could get some money reimbursed via my insurance. I'm not really concerned about the money, just want to see if in fact I do have FMS. My husband doesn't understand why I have to go to the center and not to my doctor first. He said that I should stop researching everything and go to him first. I said that although I like my doctor I don't think he really understand FMS and that this center will. I said it was my body and I think this is best. I just want to know whether I have it or not. My husband is not very supportive and I don't know how to explain it to him. I guess what if I don't have FMS, I'll feel stupid. My symptoms are: TMJ, symptoms of IBS, Memory and concentration troubles, aches kind of like I excersised a bit and once in a while will feel like I have a bad case of the flu without the fever, I have sinus and allergies, asthma, hypothyroid (been taking synthroid and my TSH levels have been on the low end the last 2 years), headaches, just had a sleep study and need to go for a CPAP - I possible have UARS (Sleeping breathing disorder, similar to sleep apnea) and I have a hard time getting up in the morning. There are so many sypmtoms, it's hard to think of them all. I guess one of my questions is does the pain of FMS vary from person to person? Does it start as just an ache and then get worse or does it just depend? I see alot of people have to use canes and can't work. I can work, I'm a secretary and just sit on my butt all day. I do find it hard to concentrate and read. I get really tired when I start to read. I try to read aobut FMS, but I loose focus after awhile and have to take a break. I just can't focus. After awhile at work my neck and back ach by the end of the day. Under my desk I have a heater and sometimes I turn it on because I am colder than others in the office and it helps with my legs a little when they ach. All in all I can do everyday things, I just feel lazy and achy. I just in general feel unwell. I came here to see if anyone else has been through this with family members and doctors, etc. Thanks for letting me vent.