First of all, thank you all for being out there and sharing your experiences. This is been the brightest ray of hope I have yet to see. THANK YOU. After months of tests & useless referals,(one doc, an internist, said he couldn't help me with my fatigue but would gladly give me a colonoscopy) I was finally dx'ed with CFS. At first I was thrilled to have finally found a diagnosis, then he acted as if it were all in my head, said my symptoms were caused by anxiety and depression, and to go back to my normal activities. Yeah sure, I'll get right on that. To make matters worse, he told my private disability insurance company that there is no reason for me not to return to work full time. I put in 12 hour days & normally drive about 500 miles a week meeting clients. I have had several near-accidents driving while in a "brain-fog." When I explained all this to him, he said that there is no reason people with CFS should not be able to have a perfectly normal lifestyle. Oh, and he said to get a lot of exercise, too. That's interesting, since calling him an idiot and storming out of there was enough of a workout to make me go home and sleep for 10 hours. So now, thanks to Dr. Idiot, my disability checks have stopped coming and the few wakefull hours that I have are consumed with fighting the ins. company. As I'm sure is the case with many of you, stress is the #1 trigger for having a crash day. I have an appt. with a different doc in a couple of weeks, but I'm so afraid it will be the same thing all over again. How do you make your dr's listen to you? How do you get it across to them that you may seem fine at the moment , but because of the exursion of getting ready, going to your appt. and driving back home, you'll be in bed for a day & a half? I live in PA. Can anyone recommend a dr that isn't an idiot? I get so sick of hearing that it's all in my head. And even if I can find one that believes me, they are'nt willing to help me with the insurance companies. Anyone have any suggestions? It's been such a help just reading all of your messages and realizing that I'm not the only one dealing with this.