Not the news I had hoped for...

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Godismystrength, Jan 22, 2013.

  1. The doctor is 98% sure that the large mass on (in) my dad's kidney is cancer. We found this out on Friday, which happened to also be my dad's 71st birthday. The doc wants to take the kidney out on Feb. 1st. However, I've been doing some research and discovered that there are 3 types of BENIGN kidney tumors, one of which grows quite large, and can look like cancer until they do the pathology. So although this has been quite emotional for me, I am holding onto hope that the tumor is NOT cancer and is benign.

    My other concern is that in my dad's current state of health, the thought of this kind of major surgery is troubling, to say the least. He has heart issues and hasn't been in the best of health... So I'm praying that his body and heart can withstand the surgery.

    I was looking online last Thursday and discovered a cutting edge Kidney Cancer Institute in New York that has a very informative website. Ive shared the info with my dad and hope he will get a second opinion. Apparently there are quite a few better options than just removing the kidney. However, most of the less invasive options are for tumors 4 cm or less... And my dad's is 6 cm.

    I used to make my dad's favorite meal for his birthday every year... And since I hadn't been able to in 2 years, I decided to give it a try last week. I thought that if I split it up and made part of the meal on Thursday and the rest of the meal on Friday, that my body wouldn't crash on me. But I was wrong... I guess doing that along with the emotional strain and doing the extra research online was too much... Saturday morning I couldn't move and could barely speak but a whisper. I was completely "crashed" for 3 days and am just now getting some energy back.

    Life is challenging enough for those of us with this DD... But when you add any emotional stress, it seems to be the kiss of death, so to speak... Never fails... And I had even been trying to stay very positive and strong... But underneath, I guess, I know there is always the real possibility that I could lose my dad due to this... And I'm not physically strong enough to deal with the grief and all that entails...

    Please be praying with me about all this... That my dad comes through all this fine... And that I will have the strength to deal with whatever comes...

    Thanks so much...

    Blessings and Gentle Hugs,

  2. Btw, my baby nephew who has pneumonia is doing better and my mom is too.... So those prayers are being answered! Thank God! And miraculously, the favorite teacher who we thought was dying, has rallied and is still with us! He's still not out of the woods, but I am thankful for these answers to prayer...
  3. deepak

    deepak Member

    I will be praying for you and for your dad.

    He is lucky to have a loving daughter like you :).

    You may want to look up Dr burt berkson - he does alternate healings for cancer with great success. But, lets hope your dads growth is one of the benign growths.

    With love and hugs.
  4. ... I can't thank you enough for your kind thoughts and support...

    I just got off the phone with my dad, trying to convince him to get a second opinion... I think I made some progress... At least he's considering it now. He is so worried that word will get back to his urologist that he has seen for 10 years and likes very much. I'm just praying that this other doctor can see him quickly or else I fear my dad will just skip getting a second opinion.

    My dad's current doc that he's scheduled to get the surgery with does not use the da Vinci Surgical System which I've read can have much better outcomes with fewer complications. The doctor I want him to see uses the da Vinci system... It's just a matter of whether my dad is a candidate for it or not. There's also the issue of whether they can do a "partial nephrectomy" and save part of the kidney, which his current doctor didn't even mention as an option. If it winds up being benign, it would be horrible to lose his entire kidney if it isn't necessary.

    Jam, I am so sorry to hear that you are dealing with cancer in your family as well... it is so hard, isn't it? Especially when we want so much to help, but are so limited in what we can do. I will certainly be praying for you and your family member, Jam!

    Thank you all again, SO much for your support and prayers. It means more than you know... I will look into those other doctors, Jam and Deepak, that you mentioned. My dad isn't as open to alternative or natural therapies as I'd like, but I will give it a try! Thank all of you for being blessings... God bless you!

    Blessings and Gentle Hugs,
  5. sunflowergirl

    sunflowergirl Well-Known Member

    I'm 68 but having had to deal with FM and other health issues has wised me up that every doctor isn't God. I'm sorry about your father and his thinking that this one particular doctor he's been seeing for so long couldn't possibly be wrong.

    I've been reading Suzanne Somers book, Bombshell.She interviews various expert doctors. Dr. Russell Blaylock stated on page 203 that cancer will starve if it has absolutely NO sugar. He also reports that a man written up in a medical journal with advanced pancreative cancer and how on a short time on curcumin, that one of the tumors shrunk by 75%. and apparently it is most effective with olive oil. Researchers found that curcumin protects against every kind of cancer tested. I've got to get curcumin from my health food store!

    I did a quick search on "cancer and curcumin" and there's tons of info on this.

    Perhaps you might get her book and do a reading on it to your father, then pray that God will open his eyes before.....

    I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

    And that's wonderful news about the baby!
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  6. sunflowergirl

    sunflowergirl Well-Known Member

    I've now subscribed to his news letter.

    Regular run of the mill doctors don't even KNOW about nutrition to prevent or help with what they treat us for. They haven't received any training on this.

    You should have heard the "warnings" from two doctors I saw when I told them I was starting on biodentical hormones.
  7. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    I am so very sorry. Prayers going up.

    I just heard about laporoscopic surgery to remove donor kidneys. They make a couple of small incisions and remove the kidney. Would it be possible to remove your Dad's kidney this way? Recovery is so much faster and the surgery is less riskey and invasive. It wouldn't hurt to ask.

    Good luck.

    Love, Mikie
  8. ...that is some great info... I had heard about sugar making cancer grow, but had not heard about the curcumin. I will def look into that and share what I find with him. And I agree with all that y'all said about traditional docs not knowing much of these nutritional things that can help us heal... This HAS GOT to change... I was hoping Dr. Oz would have helped things move in that direction since he has become so well known and visible on the t.v.... I forget though that the fox is guarding the hen house... The pharmaceutical companies fund the med schools, so unless that changes, I guess there's no hope for change in what their teaching med students :-(

    And thanks, Mikie, for the info about laparoscopic removal of the kidney. I will ask about that. I had read that the laparoscopic procedures weren't an option for tumors greater than 4 cm... But that may only be the case if you want to try to save all or part of the kidney. But I agree that would be a much better option, if available in my town, if the kidney def has to come out.

    But thank you all again for your prayers and support... Y'all are such blessings... Pray too that my dad can get in quickly with this other doc for a second opinion... I'm hoping to go with him to that appt if at all possible. Unfortunately, I feel another crash coming on... I've been either on the phone gathering info or on the Internet all day and had to go get my child from school today... And had some emails I had to write to some of his teachers. Considering the fact that I was already not feeling good when I woke up this morning and have been using my brain nonstop, I guess I shouldn't be surprised... So I'm going to have to close my eyes now and try to clear my mind... And hope I am not totally crashed tomorrow... Thanks again for your prayers! God bless each of you!

    Blessings and gentle Hugs,
  9. Nikki

    Nikki Member

    You have truly been having a super stressful time. I'm so sorry, and I am keeping you (and all on this board) in my prayers.
    I will be praying that the tumor on your dad's kidney is benign. My aunt had cancer in one of her kidney's and had to have it removed years ago. She went through the surgery really well. She is still going strong. She was in her early 70's and is now in her mid 80's.

    I know everyone is different, but I hope this info helps just a wee bit.

    Soft Hugs,
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  10. ... I appreciate your prayers more than you know!

    I'm not doing so well today, so I am especially grateful to hear your encouraging news about your aunt! You are right that we are all different with how our bodies handle things... but it is certainly encouraging to hear that your aunt is still going strong. So glad for your family!

    Thanks again, Sharon, for your thoughtful and kind support. You have blessed me today! I sure hope your symptoms are not too bad these days... God bless you!

    Blessings and Gentle Hugs,
  11. jole

    jole Member

    I'm not sure if this is a possibility for you, but I've heard they're wonderful. I know someone who went, was told they had cancer and she knew the CTS was the best place to go, especially for people with difficult cases. Well, they tested her for 5 days straight and found out she didn't have cancer at all. So I know they aren't surgery crazy, and and are very thorough.

    They also treat with natural compounds along with the surgery, and provide services to send the patient home mentally sound. If I ever had cancer, I'd insist on going there (if my insurance allowed it). Just a thought, although everyone does what they need to do.

    Hang in there! My mother died of cancer, and it's not pleasant for either the patient or the family. I hope all goes well for your father, whatever he/you decide to do. Hugs and prayers...
  12. ... I so appreciate your thoughts and encouragement! I haven't been doing well, but keep hoping and praying I'll get some strength back... sooner than later.

    Jole, I did look into CTA a few days ago... I actually was able to do an online live chat with a rep from CTA.... but unfortunately they have limited medicare patients to those in their immediate area. The closest one to us is in Neunan, Georgia, near Atlanta. I was very disappointed to hear that... so CTA won't be an option for my dad, unfortunately.

    As of right now, my dad's surgery is scheduled for this Friday... He has not gotten a second opinion as I had hoped. I'm praying this other doc that uses the davinci system will look at my dad's films on Monday and let me know if he would be a candidate... but right now, I'm not sure if this doc will do this for us or not. I keep praying, though. I realize it's in God's Hands... and that I can only do so much... still, it's hard...

    But thank you both again for your help and encouragement... y'all are such blessings! Don't know what I'd do without this board... I will keep y'all posted. Please keep praying... God bless you!

    Blessings and Gentle Hugs,
  13. mbofov

    mbofov Active Member

    Like Sharon, I had an aunt who had a kidney removed in her late 70's due to cancer, and she lived another 15 years cancer-free and trouble-free. My cousin said the only thing she had to do to take care of her remaining kidney was avoid ibuprofen - I don't know the reasoning behind that, but that's what it was.

    Keeping you and your dad in my thoughts -

    Best wishes,

  14. lincamp

    lincamp Member

    Hi, I don't post here much anymore but wanted to respond to your concerns...

    I would strongly urge your Dad to get a second opinion.

    My Father was just diagnosed w kidney cancer. He had a Cat Scan guided needle aspiration biopsy of the tumor that confirmed renal cell caricinoma. A minimally invasive way to confirm the diagnosis.

    Next step is CT guided needle radio wave ablation. His doctor said it has a 90% success rate. His doctor also said surgery would be the last option.

    Hate to see your Dad under go surgery when they are not even sure it is cancer esp. when there is a non-invasive approach to treatment if indeed it is cancer.

    Good luck to you both!!
  15. Can't thank you all enough for your encouragement, prayers and help!
    They truly mean so much!

    Lincamp, I couldn't agree more... I'm praying that I can get this other doc to look at my dad's films tomorrow. It doesn't sound like my dad's situation is a candidate for the less invasive methods... First, because of its size (6cm) and second, because the tumor is located inside, rather than on, the kidney... And apparently the tumor takes up most of his kidney. But even so, I would feel much better if he would get a second opinion.

    Lincamp, if you don't mind me asking, what part of the country is your dad in? And who is his doctor? I'm so glad to hear that your dad was able to have the less invasive treatment. I will keep him in my prayers as well... that it is a complete success.

    Again, thank you all so much for your support and encouragement. God bless you all!

    Blessings and Gentle Hugs,
  16. lincamp

    lincamp Member

    Sorry to hear your Dads case seems to be worse than my Dad.

    My Dads tumor is smaller and on the back portion of the kidney so easier to get too. Size and location seem to be the deciding factor in treatment options for kidney cancer.

    Dad lives in FLA. He originally saw a urologist but that Doc. referred Him to an interventional radiologist for the ablation procedure, Not sure of the name.

    I will keep you and your Dad in my prayers
  17. Thanks again... So much. My dad is in Florida too... Is your dad in south Florida or the panhandle? It would be quite something if they were in the same town... And if so, I would want to know the name of his urologist.

    My Dad's in Pensacola... it does sound like my dad's situation is more complicated... And his surgery is quickly approaching this friday. Even so, I want to be sure we exhaust all other options... So I do appreciate your sharing the info about your dad, lincamp... I will look into the interventional radiologist route as well... Thanks so much for your help and prayers... It means more than you know!

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  18. lincamp

    lincamp Member

    My dad is on the east coast about 800 miles away from your Dad...too far it seems for Him to go.

    Glad we could share info w each other, it always helps to know someone who is going through the same thing and the reason why we come to Prohealth in the first place...

    Keep us updated and best wishes!!!!!!
  19. MicheleK

    MicheleK Member

    Hi Shel,

    I missed this entire thread somehow. I am sorry. I so wish you would get a break. It's one thing after another, after another. I am very sorry to hear about your father. It is so hard to watch our parents go through such things. I hope it will all work out well. Hugs, Michele
  20. confetti11

    confetti11 Member

    I haven't been on this board for quite a while but I just had to pipe in that I think my dad may have had the same thing just 2 years ago (he's 83 now.) I was scared to death. That word...cancer. He made it through okay (total removal of one kidney.) I just wanted to hopefully give you some hope that, even with surgery (and it's almost impossible to get that generation to get a second opinion...although in my dad's case it was clearly malignant) can go okay.