On Oprah, after the show,she said 1 thing every person wants is validation. That IMHO is our huge problem most of us do no feel validated. Reading these boards and your posts. It is alot about validation. We feel it from family,friends,society,drs.,med field,hospitals,govt. If we said we had cancer we would be validated as having it or a cancer survivor. We are all fm,cfid`s survivors,everyday of our lives we have a constant reminder from our bodies,to the dreaded fog,even when we sleep I feel pain. I woke up during both of my surgeries with anesthetic,that ought to tell them something. Every person wants to be validated in life. Yet, when you tell someone I can tell by their expressions or look or no response. No validation!!! I think that is what alot of these posts are about. Maybe thats how we should hit up Oprah, we want to be validated that this thing is real!!!!!! } I know when I worked at pain clinic when I told them I understood that I to am you.How each person opened up and said they were afraid to tell anyone all the unusual things they were suffering. What do Ya All think??? Do we just atleast want to be validated if nothing else. If we go to a doc, if he would just say, we have alot in medicine we do not understand yet, what can I do to help you,plus look at you. Think that alone would help some stress. Also people we care about or love who do not take the time to understand or validate us. Sweet Hugsssss to all! Is this what many are needing? Oprah said she felt that every person needs this.