OT... can you spell R-E-S-P-E-C-T? Not JUST a Mom...

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by victoria, Feb 3, 2006.

  1. victoria

    victoria New Member

    A woman named Emily renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk's office was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

    "What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job, or are you just a...

    "Of course I have a job," snapped Emily. "I'm a mother."

    "We don't list 'mother' as an occupation... 'housewife' covers it," said the recorder emphatically.

    I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."

    "What is your occupation?" she probed.

    What made me say it, I do not know... The words simply popped out"

    "I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

    The clerk paused, ballpoint pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

    "Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"

    Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply,

    "I have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't), in the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters (the whole darned family), and already have four credits (all daughters. Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money."

    There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

    As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants - ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model (a 6 month old baby) in my child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern.

    I felt triumphanT!! I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another mother."

    Motherhood...What a glorious career!

    Especially when there's a title on the door!

    Does this make grandmothers
    "Senior Research Associates in the field of Child Development & Human Relations"

    and great grandmothers
    "Executive Senior Research Associates"?

    I think so!!!

    I also think it makes Aunts
    "Associate Research Assistants".

    LOL, sounds much better than "Domestic Engineer"....


  2. fivesue

    fivesue New Member

    Mothering seems to be a very undervalued position now. What is more important that loving and guiding the next generation? Not much in my opinion.

    A good post. Thank you!

  3. kaiasmom

    kaiasmom New Member

    I wish I could be so quick on my feet!! That was a wonderful response. I personally feel that being a mother is absolutely the most important job in the world. After all, we are teaching the future leaders of the world how to function in society. I think that's better than any other job!

    Thanks for the uplift!

  4. victoria

    victoria New Member

    I never get tired of housework -

    when guests come to visit
    I just put down dropcloths and say,
    "We're painting."
  5. saphire27

    saphire27 New Member


    you are amazing, i love people like you. I sometimes USE TO say Domestic Goddess, people would laugh at that joke.

    now thanks for the new insight.
    Sometimes when someone acts like their better than me for working, i say to them i HAVE alot of job titles, i am a

    and can go on & on..
    but yours sounds so much better!

    bumping for US!!!

  6. victoria

    victoria New Member

    wish I could take credit for saying/writing this, but I can't, a friend sent it to me... but it certainly does give me ideas!

  7. NyroFan

    NyroFan New Member

    I love it!
  8. NanaPoppy

    NanaPoppy New Member

    I have been unemployed since December, and my family seems to think that all the housework should be left up to me, since I don't "WORK". They also don't understand why I'm exhausted when they all get home expecting a meal on the table. I'll make sure I tell them the new job title!
    Thank you so much!
  9. JLH

    JLH New Member