I have brought this woman up before, shortly the story THEN was that she told me this cute little "story" about a woman she met in the park, that just "happened" to have had 2 children on her own (like me) and just "happened" to be poor (like me). She got tired of living on a dime and desided to go to med. school to become an MD. How sweet! Oh, and she is her new doc. What she meant to say with her sweet smile was "Get off your d#%n hypochondriac ass and get a job so I don't have to be ashamed in front of my "perfect little friends". Anyways, big leap forward. One day I had to go to her house. I walked in to her living room and headed for the couch where her big bible just happen to lay strategically. She said suddenly with her always big "sweet" smile: "Oh, let me move this scary stuff out of your way". Another jaw dropper. As time have passed since I got to know her (she is the grammy of my daughter) I've had a harder and harder time looking her in the eyes. I despise her! You can not talk to her about things either, she avoids conflict (but like to give her sweet little "messages" here and there). She accually pulled this hypochondriac stuff on my ex.husband too, he suffers from Gulf War Syndrome. First, I more or less grew up in church, found another way to practice my belief that worked better for me, I respect differences in faith and culture. I've told her I believe in Christ, but not the church- I don't go there. Does this give her the right to mock me? What's wrong with this woman? How do you talk to deaf ears? The woman was a pastors wife for many years,divorced and remarried. I come from another country (Sweden) and culturally I get confused. In my country it would be wrong for an ex. MIL to "lecture" a non- blood relative. As I look back, this is how she treated her son, that is why I recognise a pattern. How do I put a stop to her insults? She really have no business telling me what to do anyway? I am 39 years old! I divorced her son physically in 2004. I've been a work-a-holic since age 16! I didn't work for the past 3 years because of my plummeting health. She never come to see how I'm doing and help with the kids out of pure wanna-do, she only bring my son to church on sundays to save at least one poor soul in my horrible home. She will take the children if I'm going to a doc. appt. I'll give her that. Mentally I feel abused and tired. I have no moral support except for you guys here. I have superb support from my family back home in Sweden. Oh, I have this lady from a different church than MIL that is my saving Angel! She never impose herself and her stuff on me. She respects me, listen to me, and can even discuss faith and agree to disagree about it. Bless her heart! Please give me advice on how to respond to her little "let me move this scary stuff out of your way" crap. That was one thing too many, she needs to show some respect for me! I need to nip this crap in the butt, but am at a loss of how. And if her goal was to "make" me go to church- this will just bring me further away, don't ya'll think? By the way, she is retired for Carpal tunnel alone! How did she do it?! Then I am supposed to get my lazy ass going when I have severe neuropathy in my hands/ arms, carpal tunnel, postural tachycardia, rhaynauds, chronic migraines, high BP, awaiting FM or CFS diagnosis in September, IBS, extreme fatigue, muscle weakness/ wasting, osteo and other yet unsure of- arthritis, bad disk in C-spine, I could go on for a while longer! Sorry about the long post, I do those once in a blue moon!