I spoke to mom over the phone. My sister never goes to the doctor, don't know why. It is obvious that she suffered from high blood pressure for many years, severe migraines, probably Sjogrens and arthritis. Who knows what else she has? She is 44, works too much. She started loosing weight, she is fatigued, she got chronic constipation for years (severe). She stopped smoking a couple of weeks ago (yeye!). Two days ago she called mom and said her legs had swollen up so much she couldn't bend them, went to work, pull the big smile as usual. i sent her some info on what happens to the body when you have untreated hypertension, RA, etc. She always knows best, always acts above the rest of us, but can be sweet as honey (confusing, yes!). Her excuse for her swollen legs to me? The detoxification of her smoking. Bull, she just won't go to the doc, as usual. Is she suicidal or what? What is it with people who won't go to the doc, but just suffer from the effects of their illnessess? I just don't get it?! She makes me mad. I don't feel sorry for her anymore, she is so highly intelligent, why does she act like a fool with her own health? Why have almost daily migraines if you can get help? Why risk strokes (runs in family) because of hypertension? Who knows how high her BP is? Mom got a BP cuff at the house, she won't even let her check it for "fun". Can any of you tell me what is going on with my sister and her refusal to go to the doctor, ever? The greatest mystery of all needs to be solved. I really just want to slap her. We have alot of bad illnessess in the family, fatal if not kept up with. I really love my sister, but this is driving me up the wall.