OT this made me smile about getting older

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by carebelle, Aug 31, 2006.

  1. carebelle

    carebelle New Member

    The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was
    taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction,
    she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting
    question, and I would ponder it, and let her know.

    Old Age, I decided, is a gift.


    I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, and my loving
    family for less gray hair or a flatter belly.

    As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself.
    I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra
    cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that
    I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to
    overeat, to be messy, to be extravagant. I have seen too many dear friends
    leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that
    comes with aging. I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the
    person I have always wanted to be.

    Oh, not my body! I sometimes despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy
    eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person
    that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!), but I don't agonize
    over those things for long.


    Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 am,
    and sleep until noon?

    They, too, will get old.

    I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as
    well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

    I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50's, and if I, at
    the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.


    I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body,
    and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the
    pitying glances from the jet set.


    I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn gray, and to
    have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So
    many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn
    silver. I can say it and mean it.

    Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break
    when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when a beloved
    pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and
    understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile
    and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

    As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what
    other people think. I don't question myself anymore I've even earned the
    right to be wrong.


    Today, I wish you a day of ordinary miracles.

    So, to answer your question, I like being old It has set me free. I like the
    person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still
    here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying
    about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day.

    Author Unknown


  2. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    Well we have to think back to when we were 18 and thought 30 was really old!!!

    I do not mind being older(I get to turn 60 in November)even though I still have a 12 year old!!!

    However, what bugs me is that many of my friends who are in their 40's and turning 50 have all had face jobs done, either thermage and full dermabrasion and restalyn or even a lift.

    The thing is, although they end up with smooth skin, they actually just look like 52 year olds who had a face job.

    However I have better legs than any of them(LOL)

    Love Anne
  3. Lolalee

    Lolalee New Member

    I sure wouldn't mind having the body at had at age 33 (which made my husband go "gaa-gaa"...LOL...I was really petite), however, I would not want to go back and start all over again. I'm such a better person now and my self-esteem has grown by leaps and bounds.

    So....HOORAY!!! for getting older and the freedom that comes with it.

    Thanks for posting this Carebelle.

    Lolalee
  4. Sandyz

    Sandyz New Member

    A very good post, thanks. I am 49 and I got asked for the first time at a store if I was eligible for the senior citizen discount. I was taken aback. I thought, do I really look that old? I guess I probably do, this disease is hard on us. I sure wouldn`t mind a facelift but probably be to chicken to do it.

    I love the freedom too and all the knowledge I have now that I didn`t have when I was young. I am older but wiser.

  5. rockgor

    rockgor Well-Known Member

    Letter to Bertrand Russell:

    What do you feel about old age, and do you ever read myster novels?

    Answer: I read many detective novels, and I consider old age a time to strugle for human decency--like any other.


    Russell was about 91 when he wrote that. He lived to be 98. One of the 20th century's greatest mathmeticians and philosophers.

    Interesting life. An Earl, wealthy, author of many books and winner of many awards including the Nobel Prize.

    He was also fired from some teaching jobs and thrown in prison for his protests against war.
  6. Shannonsparkles

    Shannonsparkles New Member

    ... Carebelle is telling us that she has a sagging butt?? No way!

    But... then I got down to the "Author Unknown" part. lol

    One thing I remember about old people, from sorting through thrift stores on Tuesday afternoons, is their bright colors and big glasses. And how friendly I have found them to be.

    You know those Royal Doulton figurines of slender, milk-skinned young women twirling in ball gowns, their experssions blankly elegant? I would like to see Royal Doulton make a new line of figurines. Starting with a white haired hunched up old lady, wearing a big turquiose blouse, pushing a sterling silver shopping cart full of tiny groceries. That's beauty!

    ((freedom and time)) Shannon
  7. carebelle

    carebelle New Member

    I hate that fake plastic look .I have earn every gray hair and wrinkle They are my badges of survival .lol I thing growing old is only as bad as we let ourselves believe.Its not at all what I look like that counts to me its how I feel.

    you are lucky if you have great legs,mine are short and chubby lol

  8. carebelle

    carebelle New Member

    well I guess if I'd admit it my butt's to big to sag lol

    yup beauty still is in the eye of the beholder and the little white haired lady is beautiful to me .I love looking at peoples faces real faces no makeup just plan truth of life.
  9. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    I have to brag a little and tell you I was on a CND march with Bertrand Russell too many years ago!-There again, practically everyone in the UK who ever marched would say the same thing!!! He was such a famililar figure when I was young and in UK and did a great deal to influence British thinking about peace.

    He spent a lot of time travelling the country marching with any CND people he could find.

    He was quite brilliant. What is strange is that Blair changed his politics from those of his ultra conservative stepfather(who was aiming to be PM himself) to Christian socialist due to the influence of Russell-wonder what happened???(LOL)

    Love Anne
  10. rockgor

    rockgor Well-Known Member

    Great! Good for you. I think Russell's grandfather was Prime Minister. His parents (Russell's) died young.

    Bertrand Russell could have lived a life of luxury and idleness, but chose not to. I read that he knew many politicians, state leaders, etc. and spent a lot of time writing to others.
  11. BlueSky555

    BlueSky555 New Member

    Wow, carebelle; you couldn't have chosen a better day to post this. I had just posted a thread about HRT and hot flashes. I've just had a bad day, so far, and reading this has just made my day so much better.

    I live alone and have no grandchildren....yet. I will get together with my mom and some of her friends and it's unbelievable how much fun I have with them. I think there is about 20 - 25 years difference from my age to theirs.

    We eat; talk, laugh, and never worry about the people sitting around us. I know we can get loud sometimes but hey, I love it! If I live to be their ages, I hope I can do the same thing, of course I like it the way it is now; I am trying to spend as much time with my mom as possible.

    Thank you so much for posting this,
    BlueSky555
  12. carebelle

    carebelle New Member

    oh what fun I wish I could spend time with my mom but shes gone now.

    Enjoy it as much as you can and as long as you can.
    I'm glad you like the post
  13. carebelle

    carebelle New Member

    oh what fun I wish I could spend time with my mom but shes gone now.

    Enjoy it as much as you can and as long as you can.
    I'm glad you like the post
  14. Marta608

    Marta608 Member

    Great post, Carebelle.

    My 11-going-on-22-year-old granddaughter will be spending tomorrow night with me so I expect that Sunday will find me much older than today. I'll be smiling though.

    Marta
  15. caperkat

    caperkat New Member

    Good timing for this post... I turn 50 today!

    What I wish for: to lose 20 lbs (darn weight causing meds), to watch my children coloring a picture again or dyeing Easter eggs (now I can watch my grandsons!); being able to work as I did before this DD, without having to leave in the middle of the day.

    What I'm thankful for: 25 year of marriage, gatherings with my 3 beautiful children and 2 grandsons, the times during the day when I'm feeling better, and...

    ... I think the 50s are going to be awesome!!

    kat
  16. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    Well happy birthday for the big 50. My big 60 is coming up in NOvember...yikes.

    Love Anne
  17. frosty50

    frosty50 New Member

    Live each day like it is your last. So what if you have a little mess. I loved your post
    Frosty