OT - Tomorrow Will Be Better

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by PVLady, Aug 2, 2006.

  1. PVLady

    PVLady New Member

    I found this uplifting article....

    Tomorrow Will Be Better
    By Tracey Wilson

    Every night when you go to bed, you promise tomorrow is going to be different. You're going to control your anger, assert yourself more positively, have more enjoyment in life, and the list goes on.

    The next morning you open your eyes and you know today everything will work out just like you have been dreaming of. But as the day goes on, the same bad thoughts keep entering your head -- they seem as if they will always be there. Each thing that happens during the day seems to build on top of everything else. You're starting to lose hope that you'll ever be happy or in a pleasant mood again.

    Breathe deeply, say positive attributes about yourself, do away with negativity by paying attention to your thoughts. As soon as you catch yourself thinking something negative, counter-act it with a positive statement.

    The most important thing is to be consistent. Keep a diary of things which seem to trigger any negative thoughts and reactions -- under each one write a few exercises or ideas that may be able to help you when these triggers arise again.

    When upset or angry, be careful about what words come out of your mouth. Also watch your actions around others. Body language can put out strong vibes. While smirking, slamming doors and objects may help release some of the intense energy, it does so in a very negative way. Not only will it enhance your bad mood, but it will also make others around you upset, fueling and enhancing the ‘bad mood’ atmosphere.

    Did you know repeated thoughts and actions actually train your brain to believe what you are thinking? Other words if you keep thinking, {I} I’m so clumsy, I can never do anything right! {I} After a short while, your brain will actually make you start acting and behaving that way. The good news is this works both ways.

    If you are always saying to yourself, {I} I am a beautiful and kind person {I} (regardless, if you believe it or not), your brain will shortly have you believing this. Soon your thoughts and the way you carry yourself will reflect this new confidence. Your self-esteem will rise and your negative thoughts will start to fade.

    It will be easier to take it one step at a time. First, think about what is bothering you the most; is it things you say/said or is it how you react to stressful situations? Or is it a certain person/people upsetting you? Think this through ... choose one thing and work on only this problem today!

    Maybe today you will decide to work on anger, so listen to what everyone says and more importantly how you respond. Are you blowing things out of proportion? Is your actions and/or words making things worse? What things can you do to prevent you from this sort of reaction?

    If you want to have an angry response, go to your room, or a quiet space; take deep breaths, think about what it is about what happened that is making you upset the most. When you take a deep breath in, imagine all your cells throughout your entire body being filled with white light -- cleansing and healing your whole being. When you exhale, imagine all the impurities and negativity leaving your body.

    Try to do this for at least three minutes, or longer. Soft meditative music can also help you relax and clear your mind, as well as help keep your mind from racing thoughts.

    Now that you feel more relaxed, you can think about your response more rationally. Instead of screaming or slamming things, try to talk or think about what you can do to make yourself feel better about the situation. Is it something you will even care about tomorrow, or even hours from now? Note the importance of what is making you angry.

    If it is something that does really matter, sit down in a quiet place and write what steps you might take so this is no longer a strong trigger of negativity.

    Maybe your problem is depression and not getting out of your room or house. Do you have any friends you can talk to, confide in, or just simply spend time together to watch a movie? If you do, make yourself at least once a week, (at first) contact this person.

    If you need to start out slow, that's fine. Start with short phone conversations, then in a couple of weeks move up to a lunch date, continue to expand your social interaction.

    If you do not have any close friends, as hard as it may be, you need to get involved in an activity or start going to a place where others will be who share your interests, like a coffee house, book store with lounge areas, etc ... It's extremely important to your mental health to have physical stimulation on a regular basis.

    This helps you to focus on other things then what is happening only in your everyday immediate surroundings, while providing the much needed enjoyment in life. Depression is a serious condition, which demands action right away.

    Please contact a mental health facility or doctor at the first thought of harm to yourself or others, or if it feels like your symptoms or getting worse, or not improving.

    Make a plan to do at least one thing you wouldn't normally do; like talk to a neighbor, go shopping, or being around a lot of people smiling and laughing. Even small things, like watching the comedy channel instead of a sad drama can help.

    The important thing is to make sure you take care of yourself by doing the little things first, and then slowly work up to the things you find harder.

    Whatever it may be, or however small it may seem to you at the time, with a little effort, change of thoughts and reactions, you will soon discover positive, wonderful, new traits developing in your flowering, growing personality.

    Tracey Wilson is an author on http://www.Writing.Com


    [This Message was Edited on 08/03/2006]
  2. Pianowoman

    Pianowoman New Member

    Some good things here. Here's a bump!
  3. PVLady

    PVLady New Member

    Bumpibg