I have read several posts and responses, including me, who have become afraid to let the armour down and be as you are for fear of criticism or being banned. We all should understand how bad some of our days and nights are and apply what understanding, patient and care we can bear to give at that time. I know I have been a jack-ass here before but I have been "pardoned"; there are stages of these syndromes of CFIDS/FMS/MPC et al. that cause us to behave sometimes irrationally or emotionally or whatever and that is a right given to us by our higher power. The power to be ourself. So please lets try to let this fear die down and be there for each other as we progress through this disease. This sept. I will have been here 3-years. I could not believe it; my "baby" is now ten and I have had this disease for 10 years is you look at the "first" symptom. It seems often as if it were yesterday....somehow this "condition" can lock you in time. Anyway, Let us agree to disagree in kind ways. There is no such thing as constructive criticism. I am degreed in the performing arts and and as such received MUCH constructive criticism. No matter what anyone says, a little part somewhere near the heart hurts. Criticism, even when deserved, hurts. We can, if the need comes up, try to help and put our criticisms as lovingly as we possibly can. So, please, lets be ourself. That adds color to this forum and gives it life. We are a tapestry, united by our conditions, to make a whole. To me, that is good. Love CactusLil'