Please, if I can get any info, I would really appreciate it. I am in the middle of a bad CFS flare (severe brain fog, exhausted all the time, aching joints, etc.). I know it's from the stress of moving a month ago (something I was forced to do d/t new job for husband), plus all sorts of other things going on. Problem is I really do not have ANY (and by that I do mean ZERO) friends in my new area, and even where I used to live, not ONE person has even tried to call since we moved. I have NO family that can be of help or I can even tell about CFS, since anytime I say anything about "not feeling well" they say I either am depressed/unstable/mentally ill, anorexic (I am very underweight), it's all in my head, or they just cannot take the stress. Even hubby just brushes me off...he is utterly sick of this and instead moans and groans when the smallest thing isn't perfect with him, then gives me the 3rd degree if I even start the "welcome to my world" sort of thing or don't give him enough sympathy. I also have a VERY busy 4 y.o. who won't stop, ever, and who gets me up around 6:30 am every morning (hubby leaves for work by 6 am and gets home now by 7-7:30). I don't have any family who can help, and even though my daughter's in school 5 days a week now, I still can't get over this. I don't even have a doctor closeby. The one I've seen for over a year, and who has helped me, is literally 100 miles away. I did the drive down there on Fri. to see my brother-in-law, who's a dentist, for a checkup for me and my daughter. I was so exhausted from the 2 1/2 to 3 hours down (in the rain), and I seriously barely even remember the drive back home, except the horrible road glare as it was later at night (had a bunch of stuff to take care of at our old house). I've posted before asking for any referrals for Ventura County, CA, where we now live (there's zilch on the board's "good doctor" list), with no response. And our insurance is changing anyways...we're temporarily on COBRA for a couple months during the new job's 90-day waiting period (60 days to go), so we are really trying to avoid seeing anyone. Don't have anywhere to go, anyways, and my "old" doctor is doing all he can with no avail. He keeps telling me I have GOT to cut my stress, but my stress is in large part things I cannot change, so it's very tough. I've outsourced more than I ever thought I could (longer school days, housekeeper; place we rent has a gardener), and I feel horrible about every penny (despite it all being cheap or being paid for by landlord), as I am not even working. But seriously, it's all I can do to stay on top of laundry and keep the dishes clean. I'm so exhausted, but I can't fall asleep at night...just sit empty-eyed staring at the walls, literally sometimes, 'til 11 or 12. When I do sleep, it's interrupted, but I've tried scores of sleep meds in the past, and I have reacted negatively to all, even natural stuff like valerian, which makes me extremely wired. I seem to have an opposite effect or get severe side effects to pretty much any medication, which is why I turned to my naturopathic physician. He has me taking extra magnesium, which helps somewhat, but I think I have too much going on. Please, this board SERIOUSLY is my ONLY source of any support whatsoever. I don't even have a neighbor to watch our cat when we go with hubby on a business trip in a couple of weeks...really...they go right in and close their garage doors when they get home from work...never see anyone. Hubby goes away again this week for business, and while my mom is coming in to visit, she has a nervous disorder, it's coming up on the 9th anniversary since my dad basically died in front of her of a heart attack, and she really cannot take me being sick or saying anything to her. Really. Believe me, I've been on my own since a VERY young age when it's come to dealing with problems. But at least my mom can hopefully run a little interference with my daughter at night, or maybe early in the morning so I can get an extra hour of sleep. If anyone has any ideas for help, or ideally if anyone lives near me in Ventura Co. or even NW L.A. Co. and knows a good doctor, please do let me know! I am trying to do the best I can, but my body is just not holding up. Thanks so very much! C.