Porchlight #484 is Off

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Goatwoman, Jun 1, 2010.

  1. Goatwoman

    Goatwoman Member

    Hope everyone had a good day.

    Dad looked very frail yesterday--he has about a year left. I can already tell he is disengaging from us.

    Just got back from The Resort. Big yuck. Am rethinking about retiring the end of July, but need to find another PT job to supplement my pension.

    [This Message was Edited on 06/05/2010]
  2. springwater

    springwater Well-Known Member

    Just wanted to pop in and say hi. Been very busy. I just finished cooking for my brothers and nephew and sis in law who i have invted for lunch so they can spend some time with my daughter. Its 9:15 am and i need to get started on the cleaning. Daughter is making the chicken.

    Yesterday we visited dhs no. 2 uncleand his wife and son. Meeting went off pleasantly. I can tell they were impressed with my daughter because at 20 she is no longer the awkward kid she might have seemed to them. She was holding fort the conversation and i could for once take a backseat and just listen.

    We also went to the Animal centre before that and looked at the doggies and gave a small donation.

    And last of all we went to market and bought veggies and stuff for todays lunch so i am was worn out.

    I will be glad when the lunch is over and i can just lay back and watch some tv or something.

    Will address everybody later. I was overjoyed to see everyone turning up and being able to catch up to what they all were doing.

    Teacher - had to laugh at 'here' and 'rooster'. Hahahaha

    Love you all

    God Gless
  3. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Well-Known Member

    I think I posted a note to you all on the old volume or someplace else since I cannot find it on here. Gee whiz !!!

    just wanted to say I was here in NC with daughter and family. Our flight went well yesterday.

    Went shopping with daughter this morning and got her some tennis shoes for her birthday coming up DH went to hit golf balls with our SIL. They ae goig to play this weekend at a golfing fundraiser - 18 holes , two days in a row and DH is already saying how tired he would be playing that might two days in a row :) ! We'll see. Most of the time he doesn't play 18 holes back to back days. We'll be going out to dinner tonight. No sure where but it sounds great. I can live with any time I do not have to cook.

    Georgia - Hope you are feeling better . I know it is also been hard seeing your dad. Hope Grandpa has been taking it all in stride too. Has Roxie keeping up your spirits, I hope so !!
    SW - Glad things are going with you and your visitors. ayou have such a lovely family. Sounds like you have been busy cooking - yummy !

    I just wanted to stop by to check on you all. I am thinking so much about all or you - esp. dear Elaine, Georgia, Julie and family as well as so many MIA's. Joan, Mickey, Pippi, Linda , Jole etc. ROCK - Hope all is going well for you and the computer behaving.

    Hi again to Monica. it was so good to hear from you again. I hope it will be ore sooner than later :) !!

    Gotta run and pay some attention to my family.

  4. lilaclover30

    lilaclover30 New Member

    For the second day in a row, I flew out the window and went poof! Tomorrow is another day and I will try again.

    My fingers hurt and my mind hurts! But I am OK, just disgusted at my mind and my letter writing!

    I "talked" to all of you too! Durn!!! As myu coffee friend who is my age and I always say when we leave, "I'll see you tomorrow if the good Lord willing and the creek don't rise". I don't know about the creek part but I did hear a CNN reporter say the very same thing last night on his report. Guess we aren't crazy!

    Do worry about Elaine! She is such a sweetheart and sounded so down.l guess the best thing we can tell her is that we love her and miss her silliness and humor. Keep you chin up, sweetie! Know hyou have been through sooooo much but you can do it!!!!

    Gentle hUGS,

  5. teacher

    teacher New Member

    Clean the room tomorrow.

    Finish room Friday, turn in keys, go to college to get Load #2 from Baby.

    The end is near!
  6. jole

    jole Member

    Stopping by to say I still remember and think of ya, and should be able to be here more often. Seems like my 'good' days are much less frequent. Thought it had to do with my sister's dx, but not true.

    As a matter of fact, the news is wonderful! Wish she could sue her first neurologist who diagnosed her with ALS 'cause when she went to Kansas City two weeks ago she was told there was absolutely NO evidence of ALS. She actually has two pinched nerves in her back causing all her symptoms!

    I'm afraid I have very little faith left in 'specialists', and will take a GP over them any day. Unfortunately, my hubby just had another MRI and will see how that turns out this week. May mean more surgery on his back.

    Read the last 2 volumes and it seems there are fewer people on the porch.......or have I forgotten? At any rate, I love ya all, and will be back soon! ......Jole
  7. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Well-Known Member

    I am so glad to hear about your sisters misdiagnosis. Glad that it was wrong but not glad to hear about al that youhave had todo to deal with it. Little by little I think i am going back to my pcp anyway. I had to get rid of one anyeay, my endo since she and alot of others left at our clinic. Let us just say much of it is due to the beginning of the new govt. health plan. O am so happy that she does not havae als but sad that you are still feeling so bad. Please come back more often whenyou can.

    You are not imagining things about less people. So many things happening to our Porchies and hope some will come back really soon. i miss them all alot inc. you sweetie !

    Gotta run and go back to the family.

    This has been edited for errors and omissions.
    [This Message was Edited on 06/03/2010]
  8. monica33flowers

    monica33flowers New Member

    Maybe, because it is summertime more of the regular porchies are feeling a bit better to enjoy some simple things.

    Actually, I've been on Savella for a few weeks and I can really feel the change in my body. A lot less fatigue. I still have all the hurt but I'm hoping as I get more mobile the pain will start to go away.

    Jole: That is horrible about that diagnosis about your sis but thank God they were wrong! It always makes me think as to how many of us are being misdiagnosed or treated or their illnesses.

    Granni: Thanks for poke about coming back to the Porch. I need that. I just got so tired of all the fighting and arguing on the other boards. I use to get so much valuable information and just talk with others that I'm not "crazy" about this or that symptom. But I see the fighting is still running rampant.

    Elaine: I sure wish I could come over to you and give you a big hug and just take you out to dinner or something. The last I heard you beat the cancer. So, I'm assuming this is with a toxic family member. Just remember we are all here for you cheering you on, praying for you or just being here when your ready to talk.

    Springwater: So, nice to see you on the board as well.

    Georgia: I'm so very sorry to hear about your father. I know your relationship with him at times has been difficult. Just try to do whatever you want to do for him so you have no regrets when it is his time to leave. {{{hugs}}}} I lost my father to cancer June 6, 2002, and I felt blessed to have the time to tell him how much I loved him even though he would never say the words back. It didn't matter, what mattered is I left him with no unspoken words.
  9. fibromickster

    fibromickster New Member

    Boy have i missed you all. Lots have been going on in my life lately but i have been doing fine health wise except for this darn tendinitis that i am debating on getting a cortizone shot for, YUCK.

    Well as i explained in Elaine's post I almost gave up on my marriage of 20 years (this has been going on in my head for the past year and not a sudden impulse thing), the day i filed for divorce (about a month ago), my husband booked a trip to a private place in the woods and asked me to please give him 1 month to make me happy. Well it has been a month and let me tell you I am so glad i did not give up on him. He is amazing now and the kind of man I have dreamed of all my life. Just pray that he stays that way.

    Anyway, school is out for Lindsay and she will be a senior next year (well this year, LOL) and Ashley will by a RN in May 2012 at the age of 20, can you believe it. She will then go for her Bachelors.

    I am so proud of them. Other than that not much else going on except go the pool open and have been swimming because it has been so hot.

    Georgia - I am sorry to hear about your Dad, i will keep him in my prayers.

    Julie - A baby shower, woohoo, the time must be coming soon, another grandchild, i bet you are so excited. I hope little Kiera gets better.

    Springwater - Your daughter is home, OMG i am so happy for you. I bet she has changed so much from the last time you saw her, probably so much more independent.

    Granni - Thank you so much for not giving up on me and always keeping in the loop with my friends here on facebook, don't know what i would do without you. You are such a sweetheart and i just love your profile picture. You are 2 are a great looking couple.

    Joan - I am so sorry about this darn computer, that is so frustrating typing all that and it just disappears. I love all your pictures on facebook.

    Teacher - School is out for Lindsay already, however, Ashley is going to go all year round so she can graduate 2 years early, so proud of her. Have a fun summer off school and make the most of it.

    Jole - hey honey, miss you so much. Wow, unbelievably about your sister, i can't believe they made her go through all that time thinking she has ALS and it was just pinched nerves. Yes, i am not on here hardly anymore either, it just seems work is so overloaded and there is no time and when i get home the last thing i want to do is get on the computer. I wish there was a way you could just talk to the computer and it would do all the typing for you. LOL

    Monica - that is great that you are having good results on the Savella. I hope it keeps on working for you!!!!

    Lincamp - Hey girlie, miss you too so much. So glad you are still "kickin", LOL. Oh believe I will enjoy these summer days, nothing worse than snow and cold, yuck. Take care.

    Well gang, back to work, Love you all and Take care of yourselves. Rock, miss you too big guy and hope you are doing okay.

  10. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Well-Known Member

    I m so happy to hear that things have gotten so good for you and Russ . I know you had said some time ago that you were not that happy in your marriage and that you were thinking of separation or divorce after the girls became more dependant. I have also thought about the situation and wondering how things were going with you but I didn't want to just bring it up especially after you had been gone from us for so long. We still miss you a lot and I know that I do for sure.

    Your girls are growing up so and it looks like they re both on the right track. That will be wonderful when she becomes an RN. I kow that they are also being paid alot more than when I worked for sure. However, they also have alot more responsibility too. Good for her. Glad Lindsey is doing well too and will be graduating in another year. Dos she have anyidea what she wants to do for a career yet? Hope you will come back to visit us soon again here on the Porch.

    There are so many MIA's and I miss them all. However, I know that they have so many things going on in their lives and have to do what comes first and depends on how they feel.

    Gotta go back to my family again. Thanks so much for visiting us porchies and I hope thatyou will come back again soon.
    [This Message was Edited on 06/03/2010]
  11. fibromickster

    fibromickster New Member

    LOL, Lindsay is now thinking of being a dental hygeniest (sp?). However, she changes her mind all the time.

    Have fun with your family and enjoy your time. Thank you for keeping me apprised of everybody.

    Love ya,

  12. jole

    jole Member

    Mickey! It's so great to hear from you again! I haven't been on FB so know nothing about anyone until yesterday when I was here to read, then saw your post today. So happy to hear things are better with you and hubby! You both deserve a second chance at a good marriage, hon, and hopefully it'll work out. Maybe he just didn't know you were seriously hurting....sometimes they just don't seem to hear us, and you gave him his wake-up call!!! lol

    It's great to hear about your girls, etc. and I hope you stop by more often. Yes, I've missed you!..........

    Linda, it sounds like your world and mine are very similar. The pain is bad, but the fatigue/exhaustion is even worse I think. I get depressed watching the days/years go by with nothing to show for them. Have been trying to de-clutter my house, but a drawer seems to take a couple days to do anymore, and by then I'm discouraged and ready to do 'nothing' again...lol...so great to see you here, and wish you all the best!

    Georgia, hoping you get to retire from the 'Resort' next month if that's what you really want, and can find something to tide you over. Job stress is not fun! And I know you think a lot about your dad, which is enough stress in itself. Any trips to Mexico in the making???

    Monica, I've heard several people say Savella has helped them, and so happy to hear it's working for you. More energy would certainly be a great thing to have :) Oh, I checked the FM board, and you're right....in the months I've been gone, nothing there has changed so it seems! Nope, this is where to be!

    Granni, it's great to see you on the go as always, and happy you get to be with family. Our kids were home over Memorial weekend, which is why I'm so pooped right now, but it was wonderful to see them all! Nothing is as great as being together with the kids/grands, is it? Although I'm sure your own bed will feel pretty good when you get home :)

    Julie, not much longer now, is it? That little one will be making its rounds and feeling so blessed to be in your family! I didn't read very far back so have missed lots of what's going on in your life, I'm sure, but I know you've been busy since you don't know any other way to be.

    Rock, where are you? Hope you're doing well and are happy! I've always pictured you as the cement that held this Porch together........your wit and comments always ties us closer!

    Springwater, you must be so terribly happy to have your wonderful daughter by your side again. It seems like it's been a long time since she's been there. Hope you're taking lots of pictures and giving lots of hugs! I think of you when I sit outside on my porch at night looking at the stars, and during the day with my flowers!

    Teacher, glad vacation time is here, and hope you do something fun. Are you taking a vacation?

    Well, dear friends, I hope I didn't forget anyone. Special hugs to Elaine and Carla......the ones who keep the rest of us knowing we can fight whatever we need to fight, and continue on even when things are terrible, 'cause sooner or later it does get better!

    Summertime is so busy on the farm, but this year my hubby is going through some major trials........ probably his last year to farm, and it's a very hard time for him. Too many health problems and for some reason, we seem to be aging! Huh! How does this happen???? Lots of decisions to make, and definitely feeling the 'Senior' part of life......Hugs to all....Jole

  13. lilaclover30

    lilaclover30 New Member

    Here I am again! i have to admit that yesterday was absolutely the WORST day i have ever had. My scalp hurt, my fingers, my feet, my forehead, my eyes, just every single place that i can think of!!! Even my skin hurt!!! i finally just gave up, had a dish of ice cream, and went to bed!!!! And you know what????? Daughter never said a word about it when I told her nor did my coffee bunch. i don't expect words of sympathy as i never mention it but I would have liked just a "too bad". Then my arch enemy came in for a moment---she had pulled her back out and my oh my, the attention. I really don't expect attention as no one believes me anyway.

    Boy, did that sound sorry for myself. But the real blow came later. My pastor and friend were speaking about someone I knew who was ill. I said her name and lady pastor yelled at me, "I said------!!!!" I answered not too happy 'You don't have to yell at me". She answered loudly, "I am just trying to make you hear me". my heart sank then, I dropped my shoulders and held out my hands "I'm sorry I can not hear". "i8 need to see a person's lips" Nothing else was said. I sat silently as I was about in tears. My PASTOR!!!!!!! Nuf said.

    JOLE: Glad to hear from you! I am so happy that your sister's diagnosis was wrong. Why do specialist do that? To get a patient back another time? Anyway, I am certain that is a big weight off of your shoulders! bravo!-

    I hope that hubby doesn't have to have more surgery. My prayers go with you and him.

    Monica: I really don't remember seeing you much but glad you have a safe place with us. no arguing-----just love and gentle hugs. And you are not crazy unless we all are!!!!!

    Georgia: Listen to Monica! My dad passed away at 65---way too young! I remember sitting at the dinner table with him after i was married and I looked at him. I thought----"He has never said I love you to me but it didn't matter to me! I knew that he did by the way he looked at me and the way he treated me all of his life. I was just 33 and did not expect to lose my dad at his age or my age. Heart attack---then no one was admitted to the room and he died alone! So sorry for that!!

    i just received an e-mail today about the "Winter of Your Life! Oh my----i am there. but it stresses that no one knows just when the winter of our lives might appear, so love spouse, etc. and say igt everday.

    I forgot to ask you Monica! Is that med. really helping you! So glad it is for you! Dr. never even said anything to me about it. Good luck and hope you continue to feel better.

    Lincamp: I tried th going back-sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Leaving the title blank today. Thanks. I thought the same about warm weather-----yesterday it was warm. I wonder if sometimes it is the front going thru or the pressure! who knows!!

    Mickey: I am so very happy for you!!!!!! You have a romantic hubby and one that really loves you!!!! Keep all that going so you can have a lifetime of love and happiness! Talk to you on FB. You are quite a gal and cute as a button!

    Did I talk to all of you dear friends? If I missed someone I am so sorry. Yes, and where is Rock? I so enjoy his humor and his knowledge of things I don't remember or didn't know in the first place!!

    The last time I "talked" to him was about Memorial Day ("Decoration Day") in the old days!

    This is not a really good "letter". Grumble, grumble!!!!! i will try to be more upbeat the next time. You are my best friends because you understand this illness, you believe me about it, and-----you are great.

    Gentle Hugs and do take care.


  14. lilaclover30

    lilaclover30 New Member

    Thank you, thank you, Georgia! Sorry part is my pastor is a 55 yr, old women. She works here, and he lives about 50 mi. away. From what I gather, she did a little bit of everything before she became a pastor----bartender, etc.

    I am in the winter of my life. I feel it but sometimes when I am having a great time with friends, I don't feel like it. Isn't it wonderful to have fun once in a great while?

    I know what you all mean about getting things done. My chore today=======empty the dishwasher and put the dishes away and cleaned strawberries, and read the papers, and am thinking maybe I should take a shower now. My daughter has given me shades of lipsticks that she didn't like! I now need to go through them, test the color and throw away those I don't like. Maybe that will be tomorrow's chore!!! Oh, I have to go to P.O. and buy stamps! Boy, I have a day full. LOL

    I think of so many things I want to do but "my get up and go" just goes away. I have cleaned out dresser drawers. My kitchen cabinets-----well they are kind of cleaned out! But I can't believe how quickly time goes by!

    I am reading "His Mysterious Ways". I am so slow with it! And it is so good. I get 3 magazines and they take time and a friend gave me some that I am trying to skim through!!

    Thank you again, Georgia! That was so very sweet of you and I love you for it.

    Gentle Hugs to all,

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  15. teacher

    teacher New Member

    Gotta finish cleaning my room and turn in my keys tomorrow.

    Then off to get Baby's second load.

    Saturday, I plan to sleep!

    I love youse! You're the best!
  16. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Well-Known Member

    Joan - so glad to hear from you again. I can't believe that your pastor has been so insensitive. I know what you mean about not complaining. I try very hard not to or people will get tired of hearing about al your problems. most know about it and if they ask I just try and make lite of it and say it doesn't really help or do any good to complain.,does it ?

    Thanks for coming back to visit us and to hear that you were in such pain everywhere. I know what you mean. That is just terrible and I hope you feel better soon. Yes, have that bowl of ice cream and go to bed like you said :) !! Hope to see you soon again !!

    Hugs to you all dear Elaine, Georgia, Rock, Jole, Spring Waters, Monica, Julie, Teacher and all the many MIA's. I LOVE YOU ALL ! Sorry but I have to leave for now. Just know I am thinking about you all.

    Elaine - please do let us kow how you are doing sweetie. We love you so much, you are so special to us and are worried about you. Keep having fun and try not to get so upset over this trial coming up. Soon, that person will not be able to get in touch with you in any way. That should make you very happy and her not so :) !! Please touch base with us when you can.

    Mickey - God bless you sweetie and the very best to you and Russ. Hope his behavior continues. Hope to see you soon again here.

    [This Message was Edited on 06/03/2010]
  17. springwater

    springwater Well-Known Member

    overjoyed to see everyones posts.

    Jumping for joy to read Mickey is in a good place in her relationship with Russ and that
    Joles sister does not have ALS after all! Oh my goodness, what a relief. sweet sweet relief!
    Elaine hang in there. Georgia, im sorry about your father, im remembering the first time i had
    to deal with the thought of losing my own father.

    I am not feeling good at all right now. Got a case of severe diarreaoh think something i ate,
    and feeling so sleepy but need to get my clothes ready and pack gift for a function today
    at dhs cousins husbands place. the new mom one. im debating whether to go at all but
    know aunt is counting on me and some others to make good impression on her inlaws. she
    does fret so about this daughter. the inlaws are filthy rich and love doing things in elaborate
    ways. and aunt gets so flustered. My daughter can accompany aunt but i think aunt would prefer grown ups, she will be taking some of her sisters also. after this ceremony, her daughter is allowed to come back to the paternal home for a few months to recupe from the delivery.

    the do is in the evening so i have time to get better. dont feel like bathing or ironing or anything ;sheesh, wsh this thing hadnt hit me now.

    god lbless

  18. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Well-Known Member

    Just on the computer for a few minutes to check on you all :) !! DH and SIL are off to play in a fundraising golf tourny so dd and I have to figure out wt to do with the grandson today. Yesterday was the last day of school ( he is 16 but has some learning disabilities). We were thinking of the movies but DD checked to see what was out her and don;t think there was anything she wanted to see or to bring the kid to see :) !Who knows what we will do ! It is hot here too but maybe not quite as bad right now as TX.

    Hope everydobby has a great weekend. Just wantaed to check aand see how you all are doing. So glad to see Mickey and Monica. I miss all the MIAs that haven't been here in so long.

    Rock - Hope you are doing OK and CARLA too.

    Carla - Hope they have at least started all the work in your yard afater all the mes was made. Hope you are feeling OK too.

    Georgia - I kno that must be a hadrd decision on whether to retire or not soon. That is great if you have enough oney to live on, on a daily basis. You can of course always knit along with your other job. Not sure if that was paying or not - at the hospital I think it might be at. So sorry to hear about your dad but galaad that you did make your peace with him. It is sad if you never had a real close relationship. Yes. many esp men in the older generations find it hard to say I love you or I am sorry.

    Julie - Please try and take it easy girl. You are going to wear yourself into a frazell. What would happen if you could not be there for EVERYONE. Everyone counts on you so much . You are something else - so giving to all. Hope they all appreciate you. Hope Kiera is starting to feel better !

    Jole - I am so happy to hear about your sister and that she does not had ALS but I think I would like to strangle the doc who told her that she did have it.

    Elaine - please let us know how you are! We love you a lot !! TTY all later.

    Love ato AWL,
  19. rockgor

    rockgor Well-Known Member

    I am reading your posts. Just can't respond. No energy. Have tried this, that,
    and the other thing. Supplements and meds help w/ various problems, but can't
    find any that give me energy. Always something new to try though.

    Nice you to see some old friends back on the porch.

    My Alz seems to be getting worse. Playing solitaire, I now have trouble putting
    the red and the black in the right places. My sister has been out of a job for a
    year. Took me two tries to send her a check y-day. First I couldn't find her
    address. Then I sealed the envelope w/o the check. Then I mis-addressed the
    second envelope.

    Everything turns into a comedy of errors nowadays, only nobody's laughing.

    Alzheimer's is an interesting disease. The mind is able to watch itself disintegrate.

    Gordon took a spider orchid to work today to show his coworkers. It is a very
    showy plant w/ long, skinny petals. Some of the flowers are a foot across.

    I hope to come back and post more later. Meanwhile, keep on dancin' till the music

    Ha det bra
  20. rockgor

    rockgor Well-Known Member

    So nice to see some old friends here again. Joan, you have
    no obligation to be upbeat here. Yes, it's a good idea to try and
    look at the positive side of things. But it's also a good idea to
    be realistic about what's going on.

    I'm sorry to hear another post went puff. I had one go poof on
    Youtube last night. How many lipsticks do you have to fool around
    with? Maybe you could experiment w/ one color on top and
    another on the bottom.

    I think the last time I wore lipstick was 1964. I was appearing
    in production of "Little Mary Sunshine" as a stalwart Forest
    Ranger. Not to be confused w/ Forrest Gump or the Lone

    By the way, which do you think is a funnier name. Forrest Gump
    or Winston Groom (the author).

    Granni, I'm having trouble keeping track of things these days.
    Are you going on a trip or are you back from one? In either
    case, hope it's a fun trip.

    Springwater, is you daughter still visiting? Was it two years
    she was away? Does she seem much changed?

    Is your summer booked up, Teacher? Whatever, hope it's a
    good one. I remember in my youth how those three months
    of vacation seemed to stretch. In June, September looked like it was
    years away.

    Well, guess I will post this now to minimize the possibility of
    the poof effect. Come back later if possible.