Porchlight # 674 IS CLOSSED

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by rockgor, Jan 9, 2014.

  1. rockgor

    rockgor Active Member

    Hi Kids

    Things has been very busy around the ranch lately. By that I
    mean Gordon has been busy. Now that he's no longer putting in
    12 hours a day at work plus commute, he has time and energy to
    do something about this old house.

    It has two big problems. 1) it's old (which means a lotta things don't
    work so good, and 2) it is crammed full of junk, mostly accumulated by
    his pack rat mother.

    He would like to get rid of her stuff, but on the other hand, he just can't
    bring himself to do it. As I may have mentioned once or 30 times, we
    have that big industrial size sewing machine in the kitchen. Bigger than a
    gas stove. And there are several (couple dozen maybe) cartons of junk
    strewn around the place. Mostly old fabric from the days when she did
    sweat shop sewing at home.

    The problem is aggravated by the fact that I am so feeble now I can no longer
    move furniture and lug boxes. I do little things to help. Kinda like having
    a toddle as a helper. Good intentions; not too much substance.

    Today I spent an hour or so with my CDs. Don't know how many I have. No
    sense counting. Would just reinforce my compulsive behavior. Anyhoo I have
    enough that the boxes fill up a 6 shelf bookcase. Last week we took the CDs out of
    small boxes and put them in big boxes. All the while I kept saying, "But I
    can't move boxes this big." The project was sheer folly (about 15 denier) since
    the boxes could not be opened on the shelf. Not enough room to lift the cover.
    So they had to be moved off the shelf if one wanted to take out a CD, and the
    boxes were too heavy for me to do that. All the while I kept saying to myself,
    I don't care. Que serra serra. It's his house. If it makes him happy, etc.

    Today he agreed I should reverse the process. From big boxes to small. Oy-vey.

    The last time I posted, I ran outta steam before I addressed everydobby. Was
    hoping to do better this time, but ran outta steam again. Maybe I can come back
    and do little mini posts. Anyhoo I do wanna say to Sunflower, I hope the docs
    can fix up hubby. It is so aggravating when things that have been automatic
    for decades (like thinking and breathing and circulating and digesting and etc.)
    go haywire. (Gary Larson had a cartoon about things running amok in a
    baling wire factory.)

    For our pun lovers, here's a memo from the Personnel Dept.
    "Employees are advised that civil conduct and common courtesy are
    required here at Maybelline. Those who have been engaging in
    petty spats are instructed to make up."


    Illustrating that everything is more difficult when your computer and your
    brain don't work, it has taken me an hour to write and post this. Took two
    tries to sign in here and two tries to cut and paste and then the post was
    double spaced and had to be corrected and on and on. It took less effort
    to brief cases for law school.
  2. jaminhealth

    jaminhealth Well-Known Member

    Rock, I'm so good at getting rid of stuff....and I still have ENOUGH stuff...my daughter will just have to have a huge thrift organization come and clean it out and take it away.....good luck....jam
  3. lydia1

    lydia1 Well-Known Member

    Good morning to all! Rock, thanks for being on the ball and getting another volume going. Glad Gordon now has time to take care of some of the clutter, etc. I remember when you mentioned that very heavy bag of mortar or cement or something...I think it is in your basement...you had a good idea to just leave it there. But good to go through things and get rid of what you can.

    Might get to see Amy and Keira this weekend...Clinton has to work tomorrow, so the gals may come this way to spend Saturday and part of Sunday. Keira gets to go to a special picnic with her teacher today...in the classroom. They had a substitute not too long ago, and the kids who were respectful and did their work, etc...get to spend their lunchtime eating and doing fun things with their regular teacher.

    Lindsey and David are trying hard to find a new home...they plan to buy, but need to find something for a family with four kids, in their budget. Not a whole lot to choose from in our area, in their price range. And they are weighing pros and cons of living in the country or in town...

    This may turn out to be a very long day. I woke up around 2:00 am; heard a noise (I think it was Den's C-Pap machine) and haven't been able to get back to sleep. It is now past 4:30 and he will be getting up in a hour to get ready for work.

    We plan to have supper with Den's dad this evening...I will go pick up Gpa and we will meet Den in town when he gets off work. Since David is at Guard drill, Lindsey and the kids may meet us there too.

    Gpa hasn't been out in this cold weather, which is best. But he also can't do much in his house...he gets in trouble with Sis if he tries to work on any projects etc. during the day because it wakes her up. She is up a lot at night, so doesn't get up and around some days till well after noon. Den told him that maybe it was time to remind her exactly whose house she is living in, rent free and without any financial responsibilities.

    I have had to just make myself not worry about it...if Gpa prefers to stay in his own home, in spite of how he is treated, I can't change his thinking. And he might threaten to kick her out, but would never follow through, so we just keep in touch with him by phone and take him out to eat or bring him to our house.

    I wonder if God hasn't been keeping me so busy with Lindsey, in order to keep me from having time to get upset about Gpa. She wants to start packing up things that they aren't using right now...I hope they don't have to live in "limbo" for too long. They have moved Lorraine and her things out of her bedroom...that was where the most recent mold was found. So the rest of the rooms are a little more crowded at the moment.

    Even though the mold test results came back and said there was no actual "black mold", we sure feel that the whole family is reacting to whatever is there. And that the sooner they can get out, the better. I have always thought that some of my health problems were related to "something" going on in that house, but we just never found enough "evidence" to confirm...but it has been getting worse and worse, so I am glad the kids are going to get away from it.

    Well, I had better get off the computer and see what I can do around here...something quiet enough to let Den still sleep for awhile longer...

    Hope everyone is doing okay...
  4. sunflowergirl

    sunflowergirl Active Member

    Thanks Rock. I'm hoping the surgeon can fix DH too. This thing has hit us all square in the face!

    And about the "clutter" the way I'm looking at it (I inherited packrat thinking from my Mom) is if it's NOT being used, nor will I use it anytime soon, I need to give it to someone who WILL use and NEED it. Ask Gordon if he's going to take up sewing pretty soon. Or........he could shove it outside and decorate it with orchids.

    I used to repair antique wicker and all these bundles of supplies for it, hanging on garage wall. I need to search around and see if there's a basket weaving class where I could sell cheap or give away.

    Julie: It's always hard when young kids need to buy a house......$ is always tight when you really need it. What is the average price for houses in your area? I will be very surprised if my son and dil will be able to buy a house in L.A. They have high expectations but low cash flow. My son in Oregon will never be able to buy one but then who knows.....they both might hit the lottery.

    I'm waiting for my SIL to bring their dog for the weekend.....she's a large weimeraner and a real sweetheart.
  5. freida

    freida Active Member

    Hi, all.
    I am very glad to see each of your posts.
    Am Glad Rock , and others, that you were each able to write them and share!

    I Am not up to writing, right now, but am thinking of each of you.

    Light snowflakes, falling past the window, today.
    Very pretty.

    See you all, soon, I hope.
    Leah Freida
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  6. lydia1

    lydia1 Well-Known Member

    Hi everyone...just past noon and I have gotten worse as the day progressed. Seems as though I am experiencing this community flu bug again. Am up a bit, trying to eat some toast and drink enough to keep from getting dehydrated. All plans have been postponed as I am now in "survival mode."
  7. jaminhealth

    jaminhealth Well-Known Member

    Hey Dar, just looked at the last comment on the previous porch, on opposites attract.....well, there is more to that thought, opposites attract, but it's unfortunate that they do....my "ex" and I were so opposite, my parents were so opposite, but stuck it out..... I can't imagine being with someone at THIS POINT, who isn't like my mind, in all ways.....too much work. Thankfully, I LOVE my alone life...not lonely but alone and feels good for me...after a hectic busy nutty life, it's refreshing..... It's 70 or so here.....jam
    Last edited: Jan 10, 2014
  8. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Member

    Hi AWL !!

    Rock - Thanks for starting us up again. I have been so badly lately in posting and checking volumes :)!! Have fun cleaning out. I know that is quite a processes.

    Got back not to long ago form another funeral. That makes the second one in close to a week. Found out yesterday when I went to the beauty shop and met a good friend there whom I hadn't seen in some time. Her DH was about to have a test done to check for bleeding in the rectum. I haven't heard anything yet and have left messages. I hate to call her in the hospital but I may later on.

    Julie - So sorry you are now feeling poorly again. This has got to stop. I know the weather surely is no help to you all. Hope you get to feeling better soon. Hope your little family does too. Also hope that they get to find a home suitable and affordable enough for them and their ever growing family :)!! Curious how expensive the homes are in your area too. I forget who mentioned it, maybe Sun but not sure. In the TX area or in a lot of the areas in TX they are pretty good prices I think. I know in CA and NY and up eat they are pretty HIGH in what you can get for your money. Not sure about FL, probably depends on where and how close to the water, etc.

    Mikie could tell us about that, I am sure. Prices of homes in FL at least where she lives. Of course if close to the water it is more expensive too. You wouldn't believe what we sold my parents home in NY for after Mom died. It was such a small house for about $500,000 but it was on the bus line and good neighborhood where I grew up in teenage years, on Long Island, NY. Only one bathroom in the whole house and 3 very small bedrooms. No DR just a kitchenette with dining area attached, for a small dinette table and chairs, and very small living area and "study" or "den".. I think our home was build in the 20's and my uncle owned it for a time.

    Freida - Yes snow flakes are VERY pretty even though we haven't seen any in years . I hope you find some NRG soon.

    Diane - Think I found out how to retrieve the x to get out of each computer program ! Will get to you on the other thread :)! THANKS :)!! Hope it is warming up by you and all.

    Hugz to everyone for now.

    Love you awl inc all those not mentioned !!
    Granni :)
  9. sunflowergirl

    sunflowergirl Active Member

    For all of you sick with bad coughing from the flu, my son forwarded an email from a friend. His friend had the flu for 2 weeks and just died from swine flu......confirmed by the ICU he was in. I thought swine flu was a thing of the past? Not sure where this friend lived. I would suggest that all of you with a respiratory illness that doesn't go away, get to the doctor to be checked.

    Diane: I think you were going to the doctor today?
  10. Granniluvsu

    Granniluvsu Member

    Yes, I hope you got to go to the doctor today DIANE. Is that right? Hope you will get well soon. Yes, lots of weird stuff going on with the flus and such. Best to be careful for sure.

    Thanks for the warning - SUN !

    Luv and hugz,
    Granni :)
  11. Darrae

    Darrae Member

    Rock, Thanks for starting up the new porch. I hear you. You live someplace long enough and you acquire so much you really don't need. It's tough to know where to even begin to sort! I am in similar straits. Not a good prospect when I am hoping to move soon. Cute pun by the way. Make up. LOL :D.

    Sun, Death by swine flu?! How scary is that! Good news is, my upper respiratory is gone thank goodness. You have been in my thoughts. Warm vibes.

    Julie, You might be on to something there. God does have ways of orchestrating things doesn't he? We don't always recognize his hand in our lives until later when we step back and look back. Hope you and family get better soon. This has been terrible for you friend. Prayers........

    Hi Jam, When I said opposites attract, I guess I should have clarified, (Not complete opposites). Of course you still have to be like minded when it comes to the important stuff, like finances, child rearing, who does what in a relationship because they are better at one thing while you are better at another, what your expectations in a relationship are, etc.....I admire Granni and her DH for their capacity for cooperation and the long happy relationship that they created together. It's rare.

    I was referring more to the little idiosyncrasies. The little differences in personalities and interests that often keeps things interesting and not boring. A place where you can actually learn new stuff from one another because of your life interests. Example: My youngest son's father taught me the love of canoeing and downhill skiing. Things I'd likely never have gotten into had he not loved those activities himself and wanted me to share them with him. And from me he developed a love for the nuances of language, appreciation of art, eclectic musical tastes, and of literature.

    However, if you and your significant other cannot agree on a healthy balance, then it's doomed. I expect a relationship to be a 50/50 partnership. My last X thought he should control 75% of everything and I should only have a 25% say in life with him. Not acceptable. I am open, giving, generous, kind of nature and willing to extend myself and try anything once. My X was closed minded, controlling, greedy, cruel of nature, and unwilling to ever step outside his own comfort zone. Needless to say, that's why he's my X.

    I've grown accustomed to living alone and have developed a very independent lifestyle for the last fourteen years. I like it that way for the most part. But I do, sometimes, miss laughing with another person over little "private" jokes, a shoulder when I could use one, a special look, a warm tender hand to hold. But not enough to ever settle for less than I deserve. I set a standard years ago. My standards would be very difficult to live up to. ;)

    FYI, it's a heat wave!!! We got up to 40 degrees above zero today! Woohoo! :D

    Love to all on the Porch!


  12. lydia1

    lydia1 Well-Known Member

    Good very early morning...just a little past 3:00 am. Right around 24 hours since this stomach bug hit...I am up for a bit, eating crackers and drinking 7-Up. I haven't had a "contraction" in a couple hours...sorry for the description, but that's just what those pains felt like. If I happened to be upright, they would stop me in my tracks, and make me double over.

    Here David is gone and Lindsey spent all day yesterday keeping up with her kids AND taking care of me. That happens often, though...we each rally around, when we know the other can't...

    For those who are wondering about house prices around our area...the kids just missed a four bedroom, two full bath, recently remodeled (with separate garage) not too far from our hospital in town that was listed at $99,000. I think $120,000 is the limit they have put on themselves...David can get a very good VA loan, so they should be okay, once something turns up.

    Of course, there are listings for much more expensive homes, but they want to stay within their means...

    Speaking about how "opposites attract"...Den and I will be married 39 years in June. For sure, we have different interests, etc...but basically, we have the same moral and value systems and our family is very important to both of us.

    Well, I can tell I have been up long enough, for this go round. Looks like another day spent in bed, at least for while. Hope everyone is doing okay...
  13. springwater

    springwater Member

    Hello all

    Julie - hope the stomach bug is soon out of your system...just cant imagine what
    the family will do if you too get sick..but you seem to recover pretty quick, even
    if the bugs are aplenty out there..could be your healthy lifestyle, no vices and always
    on the move and thnking of others :)

    Sun - I missed seeing the post about your daughter, is she ill? I know your dh has
    to have a medical procedure, im praying it is taken care of soon.

    meanwhile remember to take care of your own self. Need to give yourself even
    more TLC when there is something stressful going on.

    Granni - sad to hear about your dhs friend that passed on due to heart attack.
    I lost my FIL to it. My dhs sister's husband had to hv a procedure because his arteries were
    blocked or something...but he found out before he had a full blown attack. He is young
    prob around 40 at time of incident and felt uncomfortable in his heart region at work,
    went online,googled the symptoms and took no chances but got himself checked and
    found he needed surgery which he did hv. Fine now.
    Another lady cousin of dhs had similar case, she felt very 'off' for two days, went and
    checked herself and tests showed she needed heart surgery urgently. she too is fine now.

    Dar - thank goodness your car got fixed. I shiver just thinking of the temps out there.
    Did you ask what kind of dogs i hv? Poopsie the old girl is a japanese spitz, joey
    and jeff are brothers mongrel and lhasa apso mix, joey looks like a mongrel
    good looking one, small, shinyblack silky fur and yellow dots on top of his handsome
    well proportioned head, jeff looks untidy mop of hair, keechu is their kid, he looks
    like an over grown lhasa apso, he is beige and tinku is a full blown mongrel she
    looks like a bright eyed frisky deer..picked her up off a bridge when she was a pup
    she was sick and i thought i might as well take her home to die in comfortable
    surroundings and got surprise of my life when she rose like the pheonix and started
    prancing around only two days after being fed and kept warm!

    Tinku is lady boss now, and the boys just better kow tow to her or else they
    get it. They know not to mess with her.

    Rock - i think Gordon had better harden his heart and move the old sewing
    machine out...i can imagine the space it takes. i mean to get back to my
    decluttering soon as my brothers affairs are over.

    Leah - never did see a snowflake up close. i only once or twice encountered
    snow when i was younger. My college town was a hill station and had sporadic
    snowfall but i used to be safely home two hours drive downhill away.

    Jam - i remember when you used to go to play bridge couple of years ago
    before your hip operation...but do you think it was the lesser of the two evils?
    I know some other things got messed up but your hip pain did recede didnt it?

    Your mantra for your daughters recovery was interesting.

    Well, this is what i can remember. A shout out and hello to all the others.
    oh, where is Mikie, by the way.

    Its so cold today. Thin sunshine. A change from yesterdays blazing warm
    sun. Brothers fourth week prayer ceremony. Monks came. My dh and
    son went and got them to brothers place early morn..eight. ten of them
    including a little boy monk, really sweet. SIL had her relatives come over
    to help. cook and all. she has so many relatives! bless their souls.

    i took a chilli, cheese potato with butter dish, sort of gravy and the monks
    had it all, none left over for rest of us, lol! sis cousin had made mushrooms,
    lentil soup, greens, soyabean balls in tomato and radish chutney. we didnt
    serve meat.

    the whole thing was over by 5pm but when i reached home at last i was
    terribly tired. and very depressed. maybe the reaction from being forced
    to be social and surrounded by so many people for so many days now.
    always liked my alone times and feeling the pressure now.

    The good thing is my poopsie was windmilling and doing the snuffling
    on the carpet thing..it means she is kind of well now. she had been ill.
    for two days.
    and it was worrying. not eating anything except biscuit and just whimpering
    sometimes when not sleeping restlessly.the whimpering like she was in pain
    was most distressful. didnt know what was causing it.

    today she has been giving her sharp short barks demanding biscuits and
    ate chicken and rice and her milk. good to see my missy up and sprightly
    the way i know her.

    just now it was so cold, well not for you guys out there in minus temps,
    but i think it might be around 8 degrees celcius..which is brrrrr for us
    i was wanting some nice warm something to eat so made some mushroom
    soup from a packet and added an egg to it...let it boil, stirred and yum!

    wonder of wonders, the lights are on too. we are having more time with
    power off than on these days..so here i am..

    son is at his poetry workshop thingy, i asked him today while he was tying
    his shoelaces what exactly did they do at these workshops since he never says
    and he mumbled "contemplate world domination". aha haha.

    well, take care all

    God Bless
  14. lydia1

    lydia1 Well-Known Member

    Hi Springwater...nice to see a long, newsy post from you. I can only imagine that every time there is a prayer ceremony, etc...it brings back a flood of emotions. In our area, we have a visitation (usually the evening before the funeral) then the funeral and burial, then no other ceremonies.

    We are coming on two years (March 3) of my mom's passing. The cemetery is less than a mile from our house, so I can go over there any time...to tend to her grave (pull weeds that the lawnmower misses or brush away the cut grass that has blown onto the tombstone) or just "visit."

    Glad to hear that poopsie is doing better. Sheba seems to be doing okay these past few days. Not having to go out to potty quite so often. The cats were all glad to see Lindsey yesterday; I usually feed them early morning, but their breakfast was late because I was no way able to walk out to the garage.

    I think I am doing much better this mid-morning...have been up for half hour or so and have managed to drink some coffee and eat a bowl of oatmeal. Was all gung ho when I first got up, thinking of all the chores I was ready to tackle, but I suddenly am starting to run out of steam (just sitting at the computer) so I don't think I will be doing anything major today...maybe a couple loads of laundry and run the dishwasher.

    Am going to venture out to feed my kitties, then pop in and say hi to Lindsey and the kiddos...then back to bed. Hello to everyone..have a great weekend!
  15. sunflowergirl

    sunflowergirl Active Member

    Spring: Nice to see your long post and all the news at your end of the world. How much longer will all these prayers and gatherings for your brother go on? I can see why it's so draining on everyone, especially you who has CFS to contend with. I also need my alone time to "regroup" after something going on. My daughter had the flu bug like most of us out in calif. She's very worried about her Dad, as we all are, but like I told her, and I'm trying to remind myself, God is always in control and we have to let him work without us worrying.

    "Trust in The Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path." Just one of some memorized verses from the bible that I have to say to myself. I hope I don't offend anyone by posting this, if I do then I will remove it.

    All your dogs sound sooooo cute.....I can just hear them greeting you as you come back home.....woof, woof, bark bark bark, asking how you are and that they missed you. I miss having a dog around me, cats are nice but very independent. I'm too old and decrepit at times to have a full time dog.......at least I get my daughter's dog to come visit now and then.

    Julie: Your kids are being VERY smart not to go over their budget. Too many young people get in over their head when they buy a house. Hope you'll start to get healthy again.

    Dar: My husband and I are opposites! It's been a hard "row to how" but we've managed for 45 years. I don't know anything else but living in a house with a man in control. I went from my father's house to being married. But over the years we seem to have come to more of a middle road with both of us learning to do this.

    Granni: 3 funerals in one week has got to be very depressing. How is your husband taking all of this. As we get older our mortality stares us in the face.

    Mikie: I'm concerned at your absence.....post a couple lines so we know you're OK.
    Last edited: Jan 11, 2014
  16. sunflowergirl

    sunflowergirl Active Member

    Freida: I think about your confinement and your problems, praying for a healing for you. When you post I almost expect to see a poem. You seem to choose your words very carefully so you can convey your feelings.

    I had to start a second post to continue.......this board hates the Ipad!!!!!!

    With all the problems my husband is having, and I'm incapable of brushing down the pool, I'm searching for a H.S. Student who wants a part time job. I put an ad in the local paper but so far I think I've just wasted $20.....no calls. I did talk to the new neighbor across from us yesterday since I've seen some H.S. boys living there. But apparently her son visits on weekends and her stepson every other weekend. But......she said that maybe her daughter, H.S. might be interested. So we'll see if she knocks on our door this weekend. I don't know what I'm going to do.....pool service (once we week) runs around $l50 and that's ridiculous since in the winter it doesn't need chemicals and when it does I can do that.
  17. freida

    freida Active Member

    Oh, dear Sunflower, thank you so much for your prayers for me, and your caring.
    And for telling me about it, so I can feel supported and bolstered and less alone.

    Not being able to talk, is alienating me even more than the ongoing severe cfs, etc.
    Difficult to communicate, even with huz. :(

    And it is very uncomfortable and draining for me too, the throat and larynx are all not working correctly. Even difficult swallowing, my own saliva. Challengeing day and night.

    But huz tries to help me with my struggles. And I am thankful for that.

    Kitty is helpful, of course, also. :)

    I miss being able to talk, and to chant and sing, even softly, even my prayers and psalms. It isn't as uplifting, or as comforting, to me, as aloud is, when I do them silently in my head.
    But it surely is still heard by the one who matters.

    I did not know that my illness would cause this throat and voice problem.
    Maybe that is just as well I didn't, however it is still a shock.

    ANyway, thank you all for listening, on that subject.

    Springwater, you take gentle care of yourself whenever possible. Of course the rituals are very important, and so is your body and mind. It would all be draining and straining, for sure. I am glad to hear that you made the simple nourishing soup for yourself. I am very glad to hear that poopsie felt better and acting more normal self. :)

    Mikie, hope you are okay and improving.
    Diane, hope your dr apt goes as well as possible!
    Julie, I am glad you are feeling some better.

    I need to pause and then hope to add on to this post.....

    Dar, I love much of what you post....thank you so much for being here. Loved what you told that new poster, who was wondering if in the right place, too. So well put. Thanks for helping to make it true.
    Cannot remember right now, what else I know there was more, I wanted to say.

    Jam, thinking of you also.
    And Granni, of course, you too!
    And Rock, ....and Barry...and Joan/Lilac.....
    Our entire class" ;)
    Windblade, are you there?
    I miss Pam too. (Ranigar.)

    Hmmmm....I wonder how Mikie has fared with the extreme heavy rains in that area.

    My dear kitty seems much improved, thank you all for supporting her, and me. :)

    Leah Freida
    Last edited: Jan 11, 2014
  18. freida

    freida Active Member

    Forgot to add...about snowflakes.

    I used to stand outdoors when snowing out,
    and let the flakes land on my coat sleeves held in front of me,
    and on my flat, outstretched mittens,
    and I would stare at the individual designs...
    endlessly amazing!!

    Now I have to only watch them from indoors, drift through the air, by my windows,
    It is a quite different, though still magical and peaceful and beautiful, sight to behold!

    I thought I was tiring of snow, since I can no longer go out, and play or work in it;
    however, I still have been enjoying watching it with wonder.

    Wish I could touch it,
    Huz did not think to bring me in a handful.
    I think I will ask him next time it is fresh. :)
  19. lydia1

    lydia1 Well-Known Member

    Glad to see both of you, Freida and Sun! Sometimes the weekends are very slow on the porch; it's good to have someone to visit with :)

    Sun, that is one of my favorite scriptures too...I don't think it offends anyone to post some verses. It is part of who we are, just as when Spring talks about her religion...and I am not at all offended to hear about the prayer ceremonies, etc...I find it quite interesting.

    Den and I were just talking this morning about all the things I need to learn how to do, in case he were to get sick. I don't know who would have the worse time, without the other. He knows how to do basic laundry and cooking, etc., and could manage to take care of himself. On the other hand, he takes care of so many things that I would just have to hire done too...vehicle and lawnmower maintenance, cutting firewood, so many things...I hope you can find someone to take care of your pool.

    Freida, your struggles are on my mind every day. And your positive attitude. Yes, I guess it is good, most of the time, that we don't know our futures...you continue to be in my prayers.

    I did manage to go over to Lindsey's after I fed the cats. Then I stayed and played with the kids while she took a nice, uninterrupted shower. If nobody is around, and she needs to take a quick shower, she puts the twins in the playpen and turns on cartoons.

    We are having a heat wave too! Have reached our high of 39 degrees, but tomorrow is supposed to get up to 49!!!!! I am having to restrain myself from trying to do a bunch of "catching up"...I feel pretty good one minute, then wiped out the next. Glad this was basically just a 24 hour bug, or so it appears. But I will still take it easy today...as much as possible.
  20. freida

    freida Active Member

    HI Julie, great to see you too, on a weekend too. And to read your updates. :)

    WOW !!
    My big accomplishment for today...IS....
    I learned how to put an avatar picture on this. :)
    I had tried in the past but was not successful till now.

    It must be a brilliant DAY. :)

    This is a photo a friend took in their back yard, of a visiting female deer ( a doe,) and two younger ones.
    Last edited: Jan 11, 2014