Powerlessness and Unmanageability

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by usanagirl, May 28, 2006.

  1. usanagirl

    usanagirl New Member

    Willpower is not the key to the way of life we are seeking. Surrender is.
    I have spent much of my life trying to make people be, do, or feel something they aren't, don't want to do, and choose not to feel. I have made them, and myself, crazy in that process.
    I have spent years trying to mkae emotionally unavailable people be emotionally present for me.
    I have spent even more years trying to make family members, who are content feeling miserable, happy. What I'm saying is this : I've spent much of my life desperately and vainly trying to do the impossible and feeling like a failure when I couldn't. It's been like planting corn and trying to make the seeds grow peas. Won't work!
    By surrendering to powerlessness, I gain the presence of mind to stop wasting my time and energy trying to change and control that which I cannot change and control. It gives me permission to stop trying to do the impossible and focus on what is possible: being who I am, loving myseslf, feeling what I feel, and doing what I want to do with my life.
    We need to learn to stop fighting lions, simply becuase we cannot win. We also learn that the more we are focused on controlling and changing others, the more unmanageable our life becomes. The more we focus on living our own life, the more we have a life to live, and the more manageable our life will become.

    Today, I will accept powerlessness where I have no power to change things, and I'll allow my life to become manageable.

  2. Marta608

    Marta608 Member

    I couldn't agree more.

    I hope you'll read and respond to mine (What Do You Do When You Have No Help) or something like that.... Memory? What memory?

  3. usanagirl

    usanagirl New Member

  4. mrpain

    mrpain New Member

    You sound like an educational speaker....(OK, I saw that on your profile).... But you have a good point. One thing I've learned in life is that I can't worry about things that are not in my control...

    Example; People who are worried about their height can't add an inch to it by worrying. It's out of their control. So we need to surrender to worry and relieve that stress.. Fibro people need less stress...

    [This Message was Edited on 05/29/2006]
  5. Aberlaine

    Aberlaine Member

    Is this from a 12-step program? It fits perfectly here - especially for those of us who have not yet accepted our illness and are struggling to maintain our lives as they used to be.

    Thank you for posting it.

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