Prayer Request for my daughter..................

Discussion in 'Spirituality/Worship' started by Shirl, Mar 16, 2004.

  1. Shirl

    Shirl New Member

    Hi all you wonderful Prayer Warriors, been awhile since I have been here. But all of you are always in my prayers whether I am here are not.

    I have a prayer request for my daughter.

    She is working with a woman that has what is called; Passive/Aggressive Behavior. I do not know if anyone here is familiar with this, but its really terrible being in close contact with someone who has this type of personality disorder.

    She is tormenting my daughter on a daily basis, and it is affecting my girl's good health.

    Tontinette (my daugher) is a very sweet, sensitve type of Christian person. She always believes that if someone acts nasty, or ugly to her, that if she responds with kindness and patience, it will make things work out.

    Well, I am afraid that this is the wrong approach with Passive/Aggressive's. They take this as a sign of weakness, and it only causes them to be more agressive toward the person.

    My daughter has been working for this company for over 2 years, and loves her job, and is well respected for her work performance. This woman has been with the company about 7 months.

    If this woman whos name is Ann, does not stop this, I am afraid my daughter will have to find another job.

    Things has gotten so bad in the last six months, that my daugher has lost weight(down from 120lbs, to 105lbs, is getting sick, has anxiety, lost her healthy appetite, can't sleep (she always slept well), is stressed out, and Ann has affected her so much this week that she threw up her lunch. Her nerves are shot, and this is ruining the good health the Lord has blessed her with.

    I have prayed about this myself, but I think my own anger for this woman is getting in the way of my devotions, sorry I do have a temper, and would like to take matters in my own hands, which of course I can't do, my daught is an adult.

    For the last week, the Lord has 'nudged' me to bring this sad problem to all of you, as I was resisting and hopeing that I could pray alone concerning this matter.
    But there are times we need help with our prayer requests. This is one of them.

    I also want to thank everyone that prayed for my grandson a month ago, he is fine now, and prayer was answered. I ask the Lord's blessings on all of you for your prayers for him.

    Thank you in advance, as I know this is what the Lord wants me to do.
    I guess I know my heart is too close to this problem, and the mother instinct in me is to solve this problem on a human basis, which I can't do and its killing me in my soul .

    I am watching my little daughters health go down the drain because of a vindictive person, I know what it is to be ill, and I would not want to see her suffer like I do, especially by someone who is just a terrible demon driven person. I am sorry, I know I sound harsh, but this is what I am seeing and am hearing.

    God's blessings to all...............

    Shalom, Shirl





  2. jolly

    jolly New Member

    Is it permissable on the worship board to want to kick somebody's butt?? Having seen my daughter in similar situations, I can really relate. But, on to higher thoughts! Yes, I will pray for this situation to improve...and quickly, before it affects your daughter any further.

    One thing I've found with my daughter is to try to get her to see the other person's problems and that decreases the power the person has on her. Maybe this Ann woman was beat as a child or raped or who knows what and that's what made her this way. Jesus really knew what was good for our health, too. That kind of negativity coming at you can wear you down quick. Jo Ellen

  3. Sandyz

    Sandyz New Member

    I will certainly be praying for your daughter. I miss working but I don`t miss the office politics. There is always a few that make going into work hard and stressful.

    It does sound like your daughter is going to have to take a different approach with this lady. It reminds me of a person I used to work with. When I finally stood up to her and told her where to go, she backed down in a hurry.

    Best wishes,
    Sandy
  4. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    I know how hard it is to stand by and watch one's daughter being taken advantage of at work. I also know how hard it is for her. I've been praying and will continue to pray for you.

    Love, Mikie
  5. PrayerWarrior316

    PrayerWarrior316 New Member

    I'm sorry that your daughter is having to deal with a situation like this.

    I have worked with several people before that has had Passive/Aggressive Behavior. To be around anyone with this disorder can be very worrysome and stressful.

    I know with you being a mother you are so worried about your daughter. I will certainly be praying for your daughter and for you also.

    Blessings, Judy <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/17/17_1_22.gif' border=0></a>

  6. blessings

    blessings New Member

    I know what it is like to personally be the brunt of the person you described and also have a daughter that is also very meek and has had problems like your daughter has at her work place.

    There is a time to stand up!! It is normal for the personality of your daughter and mine to avoid and hate confrontation, but its either, she quit her job, or the lady is removed from hers.

    I pray that this person that is causing your daughter to be so ill, will find other employment and that the Holy Spirit will draw her into a saving relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.

    I also pray that God will give your daughter wisdom and boldness to say," enough is enough. And the words to say it, and stand by them.

    I once had a person say they could not stand me because I was so nice(I overheard her telling others that). I let a little 'fire' in my eyes and let her know that I was no pushover and it was not long til she got the message.

    This did not change my relationship with the Lord, but it did get this person off my back and in a twisted way, her respect.

    I also know that there are 'office politics' that were mentioned earlier, and this goes on everywhere. The best thing that I could do when faced with this, was if it involved me was to confront it. Then do my job the best I could.

    It is not easy, but working is hard enough without others taking it upon themselves to make our life miserable.

    May this thorn from your daughters side be removed, and she realize that no job is worth all this illness.

    God Bless, blessings


    By the way, my daughter has learned to have the courage to tactifuly deal with these kinds of personalities now, it is not easy, but she feels better about it.

    ps...My daughter would call me and I would give her advice, and she took it. There are still problems, but she is not near as reluctant to avoid confrontation and standing her ground.
    [This Message was Edited on 03/17/2004]
    Also, your daughter can continue to pray for this ladys soul, and her emotional condition. [This Message was Edited on 03/17/2004]
  7. dash

    dash New Member

    Shirl,

    I saw your request last night, and have been thinking your daughter's situation over in my mind.

    It seems to me that in the face of "evil", Jesus always stood His ground and was never fearful to confront it. Your daughter may have to stand firm against this woman's office tyranny. It might be the most loving and Christian thing she can do.

    Dear Lord,

    I lift up Shirl's daughter to You and ask that You bless this young woman with great spiritual discernment and wisdom, so that she can deal with her co-worker.

    I pray that those in charge may have their eyes opened and that they see this woman for what she is and take action. I ask that any damage that has been done to Shirl's daughter's reputation at work be corrected.

    Lord, I know that often you test us with such trials and tribulations to help us to grow in certain areas. I pray that Shirl's daughter reap many spiritual benefits and blessings from this period of trial.

    In the name of Jesus I pray,
    Della
  8. danny3861

    danny3861 New Member

    Hello Shirl,

    Sounds like a terrible situation for your daughter and youself. I will be praying that the Lord will intervene
    and help to improve things for your daughter. God bless her and you. May Gods grace be upon you both.

    Danny
  9. Shirl

    Shirl New Member

    Kind advice and wonderful prayers. I did not respond before this as I had not had an opportunity to really speak to my daughter about Ann.

    Her and I went out this evening for supper, and I asked how were things going. She said Ann has done a turn around, and has not been so bad since she stopped trying to 'kill her with kindness'.

    I then told her that all of you were praying for her and Ann. She sends here heart felt thanks to everyone here. She said to tell you that the Lord heard your prayers, and she was not aware that I had put the request on the board.

    I also gave her a book on Passive/Aggressive Behavior. It will at least give her an idea how to deal with it, or if the Lord decides to move one of them thats fine with me too.

    I know they can be charming when its to their advantage, then turn on you like a snake. But it is in the Lord's hands now, that I can feel myself, thanks to your prayers. The anger has left me, and that was my problem with the whole situation.

    Like someone else said their daughter did, she would call me and I would tell her how to handle this woman, but for a while she was letting her drag her into their crazy disputes that lead nowhere, and only make the normal person upset.

    I am very well aware of this behavior now, I have lived with someone that has it. But I am not easily fooled, and no way can anyone dominate me.
    I was not familiar with this P/A thing, and dealt with it blindfolded. It was my natural personality that keep me from falling into the stupid arguments, disputes, lies, buck passing, etc. and a whole lot of prayer.

    But my daughter is the total opposite of me, she lets things get to her, and will fight as a last resort. I will get it out front at the first sign of trouble.

    I believe these people are demon possessed, and allow the demons to control them. Yes, they need prayer, a lot of it. I know the Lord can move mountains, and I belive that He will when He so chooses to do so, but I also know that we have a free will to resist if we choose too.

    Mystical, that is so very generous of you to offer me to write you, but my dear lady you have enough on your plate without my problems too! I always keep you in my prayers. Thank you for your kindness, I do so appreciate it.

    Again, thanks to all of you for your wonderful prayers. The Lord is moving in this matter, even though I could not pray like I wanted too myself. I am my own worst enemy sometimes :)

    God Bless each and everyone of you.

    Shalom, Shirl