Last night we had just pulled in our driveway when my sister who lives next door started walking over towards me. I didn't think anything about it other than her just coming over to visit like she does on occassion. I was walking up the steps when she said Tim has been admitted into the hospital and he is dropping weight and has caught an unknown virus. She didn't know anymore than that and we don't even know where he is. He was sent over to Iraq a couple months ago as a training officer in Iraq and from what I have heard he has been in Berut(sp?) recently. She asked me did I want his email addy and I told her no and then I changed my mind and said yes. Our niece through our older brother keeps up updated since we don't speak to our 3 brothers since our grandmas passing three years ago. She (Julie) keeps us informed on how everyone is doing and it's sad what has happened to our family because we were a close family. I am the baby of the family and Tim is next in age to me and he and I shared harsh words 3 yrs ago and he told me he never wanted to talk to me again. I need advise on what I should do because me and hubby have three kids and I have suffered from panic attacks over my family and him leaving for Iraq sent me to the hospital when he left. It's a tough situation because I normally don't want to hear anything because I can't change this on my own.....I don't know how. I don't want to sound selfish because I would do anything for my family but I have been hurt so much from all of this. I don't want to make him feel worse. Thanks for any advise you can give me and sorry to be so long.