Does being overweight, obese, chubby, whatever we call it, make you MORE skiddish about getting the scooter chair at stores, or going anywhere with other friends, or feel like others view you "lazy" or "too fat to move"??? For instance, I really am at the point I cannot walk across the supercenter parking lot, so hubby lets me out at doors IF I go to walmart. I still try to lean on the buggy instead of the scooter, because I'm worried that others will think I am ONLY riding because I'm fat and lazy. I KNOW that is wrong to think that way, but I do. Does anyone else feel this way? Also, my coworkers and I were playing this fake personality test where we answered questions for each other, and my other 2 coworkers labeled me "lazy"! Said I was. Yes, I am less apt to rush around and walk slower and don't volunteer for extra work. I turn down things because I choose not to go. They think of me lazy. That hurts my feelings and I feel they do because I'm the fat one. Instead of looking at me as a person with a illness that limits me, they view me as lazy. Don't most of us look at overweight people as lazy, because they can't move? So if we are both, overweight and have FM, all they see is fat and that solves that, that is why she doesn't go out with us, or want to go to the annual conventions and shop and rush downstairs, blah blah blah. Then last...my church family and friends, who I love and I'm not putting them down. But none of them understand what I battle. I work because I have too, not because I enjoy it. In the evening I am so exhausted and hurting, I can't move. Wed night church service is the last thing on my mind. Yes, I may sit up and watch tv, I may even get on computer. But pushing myself to refresh my face and dressing, and traveling too and fro and sitting just 1 hour is so difficult for me! Then they see me at work or going to get my lunch the next day and they assume things. I try my best to make Sunday Morning service but I don't make the night one. I know others have made comments and I know they shouldn't, I'm not fussing about that, just that I worry I'm viewed the wrong way. I spent the last years of my Mother's life who passed away with COPD in 2005 telling her NOT to worry about what others think of her, that she knows her limitations and that's that, and to focus on what she could physically do and not what she couldn't. Now I'm doing the same things! It's hard. Sorry for the length of this. I just wanted feedback from others like me who know they are extremely overweight and struggling with FM, the ability to move about, and still worry about how others view us. One last comment. I watched a home movie with me in it about 10 years ago. I was overweight, but kept up with my 3 kids, kept house, worked, had meals on table, took care of my parents, etc.....I was fat, but I didn't have FM.