Just wondered about the perfection thread...and any stressors in families we were raised with. I for one had (have) an alcoholic dad and it made our life chaos. I wonder how many others out there had such a lifestyle that made us into the perfectionistic "good girls or boys" or even trying to hide the dysfunction with perfection to the "outside world". It seems like way back, in trying to deal with our family life as a child, there was so much written about certain roles each child takes in the family...one may be the "clown", another the scapegoat, another takes on the caretaker role....etc. How many of us took on way to much early on, either emotionally or physically trying to play the saint and perfect person...both in deed and in being? I know I was on an emotional rollercoaster many, many years and wonder if this pattern just follows you into adulthood. There are so many questions why we might push ourselves to burnout, physical and emotional.Or mayby just to try and forget the pains of the past. Any input?