Rhemy says:Goal is back to work

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by ckzim, Nov 25, 2006.

  1. ckzim

    ckzim New Member

    Has anyone gone to the doctor, and been told this?
    I about fell off my chair! Not only did this tell me she is NOT listening to me, but that going back to work is like a dream for me...not a goal. Getting out of pain is my main goal.

    I am on disablity, for Fibro, have been for 4 yrs, took me a long time to get it, I have tried to work in the past, a part time job, on my feet for 4-6 hours, it about killed me!

    This is the same doctor who will not prescribe a pain med, without giving me 3rd degree! I am on Ultram, Flexril, and I am allowed 1 Vicodan every other day. That's it!

    She told me that the only thing preventing me from going to work is the fatigue!
    I thought, "did I hear her right?" It took me by such a surprize this was her train of thought, I couldn't even reply to her. it was like HUH? Where on earth did she get that opinion?

    This was the same visit, that I couldn't move my arm, due to muscle spams....for crying out loud, And the numbness in my fingers and hands, which she wanted to give me a steriod shot for! I refused!

    It upset me so much, I called and made a appt with my Md, who referred me to her. For some reason, he keeps referring me to so many different doctors, it makes me think he doesn't really want to handle my case. Which makes me very uptight, I've seen more doctors than I can remember!

    This Md said he understood how Fibro patients can fall through the cracks of the system, and he wouldn't let that happen.. Yet here I am, passed around like a hot potato!

    This suggestion of going back to work, really upset me, and is realy stressing me out, as I don't know where to turn from here, if the Md simply doesn't want me, for what ever reason.

    I was just wondering if anyone else who's doctor finds the goal of Fibro patients is to get back to work?

    KathyZ




  2. paulmack

    paulmack New Member

    Some of these doctors really take the biscuit!!This proves that most of them,even these Rheumy docs ,don't recognise Fibro as a real problem.These conditions are really terrible that you wouldn't wish them on your worst enemy,but sometimes i would like some of these doctors to experience these terrible symptoms for a month(constant pains & no real sleep for a month) then ask them how they're feeling.I bet they'd soon change their tune.(rant over).
    That said at least on this message board most of us know what each other is going thro.You'll know when you're ready to go back to work.Don't be browbeaten by these inconsiderate quacks.
    Keep your spirits up & try to keep smiling,you're not alone,
    Best wishes,Paul
  3. Slayadragon

    Slayadragon New Member

    I would advise shopping for doctors until you find one who seems like s/he can help you and is willing to help you. There aren't many of those kinds of doctors out there, but there are some. You just have to look very hard for them,.


  4. No one, not even drs. can understand the horrible dd this is. Don't they think we would want to work and feel human again if we could. GEESH! That makes me mad.
  5. jole

    jole Member

    My rheumy asked me how I did when I quit work - I told her that it took me 2 months to be able to do anything but wander around in circles. She said, "Yes, that's what I hear all the time. You're much better off working".

    I then explained to her that it wasn't because I was bored, it was because I had been a robot for so long just going through the motions in order to continue working, that when I didn't have to any more I simply couldn't concentrate enough to settle down and accomplish anything.

    It seems to me that they hear what they want, or perhaps things aren't explained to them fully enough. She seemed quite suprised to know that I missed work, but I missed being able to do things at home also. I had totally torn my house apart trying to do some deep cleaning, but didn't know how to put it back together again!!

    The only way I could possibly go back to work would be if I had the exact same job, because I know I would never be able to train in for a new one. How difficult is that to understand???

    Friends - Jole
  6. joyfully

    joyfully New Member

    Did you look for the good doctor list on this site for your area?

    You could even make a post asking if someone has a FM friendly doctor in your area.

    You REALLY need to find a different specialist.

    I think your primary doctor is trying to find you help, that is why he is sending you to specialists. He is hoping that one of them will be able to help you.
  7. ckzim

    ckzim New Member

    For such support,for me in my dilema.

    My appt is today for the MD, and I will just put it out there how I am feeling about this whole, pass me around thing.
    I'm hoping he will take me back as a patient, as long as I keep steady FM symstoms....anything else, off I go to another doctor.

    It's sooo frustrating....Ill let you all know how it went.

    Thanks again all, as usual, all of you here, are so sweet and comforting, it meant the world to me, that your there for me, even though I have a hard time posting much these days.
    HUGS to all.
    Kathy Z
  8. footballmom

    footballmom New Member

    Let me preface this by saying ......edon't take this the wrong way but.........I understand you being upset about being made to go back to work. No one wants to have added stress but my goal is to have a normal life, which includes going back to work, doing things with my family etc. So maybe the statement wasn't meant how you interpreted it. Maybe he thinks that someday you would want to return to work....and he wants to help you acheive that goal.

    Tess