I'm very sorry for what you're having to deal with. Husbands and children can create havoc for us already suffering from health troubles. About your young son, do what you can, but most of all talk with him about everything in his life, his triumphs and his worries, the problems you struggle with, and encourage him all the time, letting him know that you love him exactly the way he is. If he doesn't realize his dad's troubles then at his age he certainly can be made to understand. Does your husband take something for his ADD? And I'm assuming that he's hyper a lot of the time? My grandson, age l0, has ADD and of course learning problems. It wasn't until 2 years ago that my ADD son in law (hyper type A) allowed the school to test him. (he didn't want him going thru school "labeled") He now goes to a special class every day for extra help. I'm so proud of him....he made honor roll this past quarter and all Bs. Amazing at his turn around. BUT....I have to give the credit to my daughter who sits with him daily for hours helping him with his homework and studying. NOT my SIL, who still refuses to acknowledge that he's anything other than lazy. I'm posting your name next to my computer so I will remember to say a special prayer for you. Hang in there. I'm sure that some of your problems stem from depression, as I know we all deal with it in one measure or another.