Someone Made a Fat Comment to Me

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by TeaBisqit, Aug 8, 2008.

  1. TeaBisqit

    TeaBisqit Member

    I was in the foodstore today. I hadn't gotten to go for three weeks so I was out of everything. And I was over at the ready made salad area. Someone who looked like an older teenager was there with a girl who was either his sister or girlfriend. She was off looking at something else. He stood behind me and said, "Have another piece of cheesecake while you're at it." Then he went off with her to another part of the store.

    I was so mad. I didn't say anything. But I felt like saying, "Why don't you try having this disease and see what it's like to not be able to exercise or do anything."

    I don't even think I'm fat enough to warrant a comment like that. I don't look like one of Richard Simmons' hard cases. I am overweight from the disease, but I'm not like where people would stare in the street. I think I basically look like someone's mom at this stage of life. I wear a 3x in clothing.

    I kind of had to forgive the comment on the grounds that he was young and didn't know any better. If he was older, I think I really would have been alot more upset. Who knows what life has in store for him. Maybe he'll end up fat and bald. You just never know.
  2. landra

    landra New Member

    I also wear a 3x and don't feel like people stare at me either. However, I use a motorized cart in the stores, so I may get more sympathy.

    That's when you want to have a reply on the tip of your tongue - like why don't you have another serving of rudeness?? Or stupid!

    The icon I selected is sticking out it's tongue - do that in your head to to him - and if you see him again, do it in person!! [Not really!]
  3. Denamay

    Denamay New Member

    He is just a young person who has no manners.

    My reply to this sort of remark is "did'nt your mother teach you any manners?"

    Most people do'nt like to hear any thing negative about their mothers. Anyway it works for me.
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  4. tony23

    tony23 New Member

    Next time it happens throw some vinegar based salad dressing in his face and shirt. Or whatever will cause pain and ruin his clothing. First shot goes to his face, second to his pants so it looks like he wet is pants. You're too nice. What's going to happen? The manager or Police come over and you explain you're ill and have been insulted. I can guarantee you he'll never do it again.
  5. jenn_c

    jenn_c New Member

    I wear size 2x- 3x pending on the store. If someone ever says something that rude to you again, I would say " wow they have cheesecake here too!! I have been trying to put on a few pounds." I think that regardless of age people can be so rude and judgemental. It is so easy for people to say " have you tried walking or losing some weight?" I know that yes it would be helpful but it is sooo hard. Between the pain and exhaustion I can't win. I am sorry you had a bad time of it.
  6. Crispangel66

    Crispangel66 New Member

    It makes me mad because it only shows how little his parents

    or caregivers have him tought him. I have really worked to

    try and teach my children that everyone is one of Gods

    children and that we are all perfect in his eyes. Also I am

    a 2x- 3x (for More comfort on the 3x). My Hubby is a 3x.

    My sister in-law is a 4x-5x and I have no problem with that

    I do only worry about her health because diabetes runs in

    her family. But my son has never looked at her differently,

    maybe it is because he has know her all of her life. She is

    still very active and doesn't eat as much as people might

    think, her dr couldn't believe how good her cholesterol is.

    The main reson he was suprised is he eats healthy and

    I guess he thought she didn't, wrong.

    Put it this way she weighs about 600lbs and I weigh 190lbs.

    Her blood sugar is good I am and insulin using diabetic,

    her heart rate normal is about 60 and mine is 140, her blood pres.,

    is normal and just the other day before they changed my meds

    mine was 198/110, now is is wonderful thank God. Today at

    my dr appointment it was 114/60. She changed some of my meds.

    ,mind you non of my pain meds because she doesn't treat pain

    control, but she changed 2 diabtic meds and one blood

    pressure meds which I am feeling excited about. She has set

    up an appt for me to see a wonderful Pain Specialist. I can

    harly wait for that because my pain meds don't seem to be

    doing the job they should. I hope he can help. But I will be

    thinking and praying for you, Sorry I made this alot about

    me. Sometimes I get to typing and forget what I am typing

    anout sorry again. Best of Luck

    Gentle Hugs

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  7. Hopeful39

    Hopeful39 New Member

    I am fat, [your ugly] I can lose weight ,but you can't change your looks
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  8. bigmama2

    bigmama2 New Member

    sorry to hear about that dork who made a stupid comment.

    im also a 3x. i have heard some rude commemts too. a doctor called me "dough girl" right to my face!!!! crazy!

    I joke around about my fatness alot, but that doesnt give others to right to say rude things to me.

    hang in there sweetie

  9. baanders

    baanders New Member

    Someone made fun of me in the motorized wheelchair in the store. After that, I was so upset, I spiraled downhill to the point where I could no longer shop or drive. It really affected me that greatly. Looking back almost 2 years later, I am so angry that I let someone have that much power over me. So turn that anger outward (not inward, which leads to depression). Say some cuss words and pretend like he's standing there right in your house. Chew him out.

    I hope this helps, honey.
    We all understand your hardships and so sorry.

  10. wildflowers2

    wildflowers2 New Member

    Here is something I say.... when you have something intelligent to say to me I just may answer you!
  11. jasminetee

    jasminetee Member

    Those are the worst. What a coward that guy is that he would assail you like that and then run off to his girlfriend.

    Don't worry, he'll get his.

  12. Honora88

    Honora88 Member

    So sorry about that. It would have made a grave impact on him if you explained to him that you are disabled and that you didn't ask to be sick. The horrer would have made him guilty for the rest of his life.

    I believe in Karma and that in order for people to learn their lessons sometimes they have to go through the same experiences in order to gain sympathy. Hopefully this man will learn what it is like to be on the receiving end.
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  13. frosty77

    frosty77 New Member

    I vote for the response about being able to lose weight but you can't change stupidity (or as comedian Ron White says: 'You can't fix stupid').

    I'm a plus size too - 80 lbs due to meds - and even when I was not large, I would never, ever, insult someone due to their weight. He was obviously raised wrong.
  14. stinker56

    stinker56 New Member

    I too am between a 2X and 3X so join the club and be happy to be alive.

    Also, I like a saying I saw the other day when you are dealing with ignorant people: