I just read your reply to another post about what you would have done if you'd known you'd be ill and my heart is just about breaking for you. I'm so sorry your family blames you but they really have no right. I've been ill off and on the entire time I was raising my children and we've always had a pretty wonderful time. If I was in bed, they'd join me, bring meals and we'd pretty much camp out. And contrary to popular belief, it won't kill anyone to have cereal for supper!! I'm not sure how much fun it was for them, they both seem fine with it now. My son (now 25) is so caring and compassionate since growing up with me ill. He opens doors, helps me get out of a car, or up if I'm shopping and stuck...he'd be a different man if I HADN'T been ill!! My daughter (although ill with a host of other problems too) has FM but she was also ok with growing up with me sick until a psychologist told her it must have been awful. Seriously, we had a blast most of the time, it was just in my bedroom instead of another room in the house. One thing I could do from bed was talk to my kids and we spent hours talking about everything under the sun. No one has a right to blame a medical condition on someone. None of us asked for this, none of us want it this way, it's just the way it is. Do your best with your son, it's all any of us can do. Your son is your gift for a reason....find out what it is and enjoy him as long as he's yours. Hugs, Nancy B.