stress.

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by neldwn2me, Oct 20, 2008.

  1. neldwn2me

    neldwn2me New Member

    Does anyone have a hard time with stress? And if and when you are stressed does it make you very emotinol? Even to the point of wonting to run screaming down the street. I am not handeling my stressers good right now. Please help
  2. deserella

    deserella Member

    First off what usually happens when you are stressed? Do you loose sleep at night? The sleep factor can add to the stress. I know when I don't sleep well I am a witch and my emotions are on edge.

    Stress can bring on CFS/FM symptoms. You can get more achy, more tender points, ect. It's hard enough dealing with this illness and to add the problems of life on top of that! It's not easy.

    I was on valcyte for a year and it was pure hell. At one point I had a total emotional break down and threw all my valcyte pills down the sink because I was so miserable on the Dang Drug. (I later had to pick them out of the garbage disposal cause those pills are expensive). Don't get me wrong I am very grateful that I had the opportunity to be on valcyte and see if it would help me and I am still awaiting results; gradual process. I think I understand what you mean when you want to go running down the streets screaming!

    I recently met with my bishop/pastor to unload on him my heartaches and stressors of dealing with CFS. He told me to make sure to find time to do something I love. I love music and I sit down and play the piano or sing and it reminds me of the joys of life. What do you love to do? Find time.

    I constantly have to be reading uplifting material such as quotes, poetry, reading from the bible. It gets me through those hard days when my illness seems just too hard to bare.

    I heard a quote the other day that said "Don't have a good day, make a good day". Along with the quote I heard this story:

    Attitude is Everything??..By Francie Baltazar- Schwartz

    Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply. “If I were any better, I would be twins.”

    He was a unique restaurant manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

    Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him. ?I don?t get it! You can?t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?? Jerry replied, ?Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can to choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

    “Yeah, right, it’s not that easy”, I protested. “Yes it is,”Jerry said. ?Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good or bad mood. The bottom line: ?It’s your choice how you live life.I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

    Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.

    After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six moths after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?

    I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. ?The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,? Jerry replied. ?Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live. Werent you scared? Did you lose consciousness?I asked. Jerry continued, The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, Hes a dead man. I knew I needed to take action.? What did you do? I asked.

    Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,said Jerry. She asked if I was allergic to anything. Yes,? I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply?.I took a deep breath and yelled, Bullets!? Over their laughter, I told them, ?I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.? Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live life fully.

    Attitude, after all, Is Everything.

  3. robin1667

    robin1667 New Member

    Yes, my stress makes me very emotional.I am doing better with it though. I take effexor. Been on it over a yr. It took a while for it to work.
    Do you have someone to talk to?You can vent here anytime.
    I've had 2 nervous breakdowns over the yrs. And yes I know the feeling well of wanting to scream! I told my mom this,she said go out in the country where no one is around and have at it.Of course I didn't do that,but it was a good idea.
    Take time for yourself,if your able.Try to read a book,listen to music.Do you have a hobby? Go for a walk. Do you have a pet,they help to relax us.Or just take a walk.
    When I've been real stressed out,I write about my feelings.I put down everything I'm feeling on paper.I don't know why but this seems to help.After a while I destroy it because I don't want others to see what I have written.
    Deserella has a very good suggestion also. It is true what she said.
    Take care,and remember your not alone. Robin