Ten Resolutions for Living with Chronic Pain or Illness

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by hopeful4, Feb 2, 2006.

  1. hopeful4

    hopeful4 New Member

    Ten Resolutions for Living with Chronic Pain or Illness

    1. I realize that my condition has not
    been completely cured or resolved by
    medical treatment, or the force of my will,
    by waiting, other sources of help, or by
    deciding it's not important.

    I am prepared to accept this and move in a
    new direction.

    2. I recognize that I need a positive
    relationship with my body and symptoms.

    I have seen that some of my efforts to cope
    have not worked as well for me or others as I
    had hoped. I am learning positive ways to
    live with this condition.

    3. I let go of parts of my past life that are

    I may grieve what is lost, but I am committed to
    living well with what is. I face my present
    reality with creativity and vigor. I find new
    ways to make my life rewarding.

    4. I forgive myself for having had

    I recognize that I am human, and have human
    limitations like everyone. I accept that I am
    imperfect, and can fall short even with the best
    intentions. I choose to develop the skills I
    need to deal with my condition and help myself
    live as well as I can.

    5. I build and heal my relationships with

    Where I have made mistakes with others in my
    efforts to live with my condition, I am ready to
    seek new and even better relationships with

    6. I forgive anyone I have blamed for my
    condition or for mistreatment.

    Forgiving others and letting go of blame, I am
    free to move forward. I take full
    responsibility for how I create the rest of my

    7. I recognize mental and physical
    habits and reactions involved in my

    Though I have tried my best, some habits are
    inefficient or not good for me. I am
    committed to developing ways of thinking and
    acting that better my situation.

    8. I acknowledge ways my symptoms
    are reinforced.

    Sometimes, whether I have been aware of it or
    not, symptoms have had payoffs. I do not
    need to to avoid or obtain things, protect
    myself, or deal with other people through
    them. I resolve to be assertive, courageous
    and honest in my dealings with the world.

    9. I understand how I can become
    dependent in unhealthy ways -- on
    people, on medications, drugs, alcohol,
    on organizations, on objects, on ideas.

    I am willing to release these things and regain
    my power and control over my life. I rely on
    people and things only if they strengthen and
    nourish me.

    10. I am ready to make hard but
    positive choices and to see them

    I am open to new ideas and ways of living.
    When I have made these changes part of my
    life, I can also help others

    By Brian Grady, Ph.D. www.tenresolutions.org
    This may be reproduced freely, provided that this notice is included
  2. MKlady

    MKlady New Member

    Thanks so much!
  3. hopeful4

    hopeful4 New Member

  4. BethM

    BethM New Member

    thank you for this post.

    this is a tall order, but something to strive for.