The Importance of Forgiveness ............

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by JLH, Jun 30, 2007.

  1. JLH

    JLH New Member

    An Empowered Perspective
    Importance Of Forgiveness

    When someone has hurt us, consciously or unconsciously, one of the most difficult things we have to face in resolving the situation is the act of forgiveness. Sometimes it feels like it's easier not to forgive and that the answer is to simply cut the person in question out of our lives. In some cases, ending the relationship may be the right thing to do, but even in that case, we will only be free if we have truly forgiven. If we harbor bitterness in our hearts against anyone, we only hurt ourselves because we are the ones harboring the bitterness. Choosing to forgive is choosing to alleviate ourselves of that burden, choosing to be free of the past, and choosing not to perceive ourselves as victims.

    One of the reasons that forgiveness can be so challenging is that we feel we are condoning the actions of the person who caused our suffering, but this is a misunderstanding of what is required. In order to forgive, we simply need to get to a place where we are ready to stop identifying ourselves with the suffering that was caused us. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves, and our forgiveness of others is an extension of our readiness to let go of our own pain. Getting to this point begins with fully accepting what has happened. Through this acceptance, we allow ourselves to feel and process our emotions.

    It can be helpful to articulate our feelings in writing over a period of days or even weeks. As we allow ourselves to say what we need to say and ask for what we need to heal, we will find that this changes each day. It may be confusing, but it is a sign of progress. At times we may feel as if we are slogging uphill through dense mud and thick trees, getting nowhere. If we keep going, however, we will reach a summit and see clearly that we are finally free of the past. From here, we recognize that suffering comes from suffering, and compassion for those who have hurt us naturally arises, enhancing our new perspective.

    Daily OM
  2. JLH

    JLH New Member

    Thank you for taking the time to reply, and for the kind words.

    Love and Hugs,
  3. Oceanblue31

    Oceanblue31 New Member

    i liked your post it is so true
  4. 69mach1

    69mach1 New Member

    i could use this for myself for many different events that have not been so pleasant in my life. i know other people that could stand to read this as well..

  5. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    We don't forgive for the person who has harmed us; we forgive for our own spiritual health. God has already forgiven them and we should do the same. If we don't truly forgive, it will eat us up and turn us bitter. Once we learn how to forgive, it is the most freeing thing we can experience. It's like removing a 100 pound pack from our backs and shoulders. It also helps how we feel physically.

    Love, Mikie