Man oh man...I'm having such a hard time dealing with this! What I need to know is how did/do your sig other deal with your limitations (specifically those of you who are severely impaired daily) emotions and basically support you in dealing with this? Obviously its a huge impact on them as well... My DH (in this case, DEAR husband...) and I have been married for about 2 yrs, lived together for year before that, and known each other since high school. Up until this, we really argued very seldom, even though we've had a whole lot of trauma in a few forms thrown at us since we've been together. I got sick about mid June (and I mean REALLY sick...almost couldn't move at all) and have been diagnosed with FM for a month. We're at each other's throats! I understand that this situation is stressful in the extreme for both of us, plus add financial strain (I'm unable to work and still waiting on disability benefits)and him having do pick up the slack at home (some housework I just can't do at all). I keep feeling so isolated and lonely in this! Seems like he's not dealing with the reality that OUR WHOLE LIVES HAVE CHANGED! Seems like now, when he has an excuse to be out of the house, he is. I'm really struggling with this. Huge guilt, and terrible sense that I'm a burden to him (and we're only in our early 30's). I know that I shouldn't feel this way. I know that neither of us asked for this to happen. I just hear certain things he says and he seems a bit standoffish, and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. He seems almost to be acting like he thinks I can control this, somehow. Or like if I could just "get happy" this whole thing would go away. He actually referred to FM (now he took this back later, said I took it out of context) as a "mental illness". But when I try to explain how these things make me feel he says that I'm totally projecting my doubts and feelings onto him...like I think he doesn't want to be around me, so I interpret his actions as not wanting to be around me.... Is any of this making any sense? Anyway, I'm kinda at the end of my rope, here. I never ever dreamt that we'd be in this situation. Suddenly having to realize that most of the plans we made for our future may be out of my reach unless my health drastically improves. I know this is just really hard because we're both still grieving, but any suggestions on how your loved one dealt with your diagnosis? I've even suggested that we see a therapist separately or together who can navigate us through this rough patch, but he seems to think this whole "problem" (with us, not my illness) is in my head, of my own making. Help?! Any advice? Would even be good to know that another couple got through this hard part and then things got better.... Any words of wisdom? Anyone? Thanks!