Hi I have been reading posts and many people mention that they feel guilty for being sick and the effect it has on their kids. First I'll tell you I have no children. Time got away from m e and with my husband and I working nights we wanted to wait until better circumstances to have children. I then started feeling ill and have been advised that childbirth or raising a child would not be a good choice for me. On the other hand my Dad had severe RA and was diabetic my entire childhood. He was forced to quit his job due to his disabilities, the ins company then classed him as uninsurable, then the dmv revoke his drivers license, all of this in under a year. Oh yeah and my mom was pregnant. But heres the kicker. My dad was my dad. It wasn't until I was an adult that I realized that my childhood was a lot different then others and by that time I only had admiration for everything he went through in his life and pride for him being my daddy. Sadly I was only 13 when my dad died. 2 days after my birthday. I miss him everyday and become blue every year this time of year, sometimes before I even realize why. Back to my point just love your children and be parents. Kids have lots of friends and only 2, and sometimes 1 parent and as long as you are parenting them to the best of your ability you won't mess up and they will see as adults how big your sacrifices were for them. Good luck to all and I hope this coming from an adult woman raised by a "disabled" dad will ease your emotional pain and let you be a mommy or a daddy. Love to all. p.s. my mother was great too.