Hello I appreciate the advice all of you gave me. I have three children 21,18 1/2, 17 oldest is a girl. I have been married for 19 yrs. It isnt just calling me fat names also cunt slut whore etc, I have never cheated on him he did have an affair 6 years ago I know why didn't I get out then! I blamed it on me and so did he I thought if I changed he wouldnt do that or keep drinking that has gotton much worse!Every single nite! On the weekends he even puts it in his coffee in the mornings! He doesnt go to the bars drinks in his car on the way home from work he drives over 60 miles a day one way. I feel part of it is depression for him and he gets angry instead of crying he puts out a tuff exterior. right now though I am fighting for ss disability have no money coming in and of course he throws this up in my face even though he says not to try to go back to work that I deserve to get ss like anyone else.