Prayers are being offered for your successful surgery, for God to guide the hands of your surgeon, and the actions and attentions of your nurses and caretakers. May He also bless you and your family with peace of spirit and mind. Concentrate on your health, don't let yourself get caught up in other worries right now. I don't know what the conflicts were about and I'd be smart to stay out of it, anyway.- LOL! A little healthy constructive selfishness can be a good thing, although it may go against your giving nature. Please take care and don't let yourself get too stressed.