I hope today is a better day for you. My heart truly goes out to you. Usually the beginning of CFS is really the pits. The symptoms are very debilitating. It's an extremely confusing frustrating depressing time. Along with finding doctors and medicines that work for you, I would suggest reading up on coping with illness. From time to time I have to brush up on my coping skills. I usually go to the library to get books about people who have CFS or other chronic illness or books on coping. (I also check out the movies - they're free if I turn them in on time.) This illness is a huge emotional loss not only for you but your family and friends. I also would recommend that your wife look into a caregivers support group, even if she doesn't attend every meeting she will find people who understand what she is going through as the wife of a husband with chronic illness.