I am amazed at how similar our experiences have been. Yes, I am convinced that my ex brought out my genetic tendency to have CFS/FM. Wordwarrier, our stories are soooo much alike. What happened in court to my ex is very similar to what happened with yours. However now, the tables have turned. My ex is down at this point. It's hard for me to see, even after all of his abuse. He had sooo much money and appeared to have alot of power and clout. My guess is that since it took 7 years (after my escaping his abuse)for the tables to start turning, and another 4 for my ex to give up, things may turn for you soon.