trying not to have a meltdown ex is uneemployed again which mean

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by 69mach1, Apr 21, 2006.

  1. 69mach1

    69mach1 New Member

    i just completed and turned in an application to move out of my black mold, mice and silverfish infested, drug dealers around and abusers, and prosititues...maybe i can't blame them maybe they are aren't getting child support as well..unlikely thought...and there has to be a better way to get money...

    so i already know it is going to be months before i will see any $$$ when he gets back to work...

    the new apt. is closer to my sons school and his gf..not because of the gh...the rent is 85 a month cheaper, one less bathroom...

    then i have ssa w/holding $$$ saying i owe 7400 for a 2750 worker's comp case back in 20034...it was a lump sum...

    anyways i had dealt w/that issue w/the old closed case...their mistake not mine nor my attorney's...they only calcualted..a figure of 400 for my worker's comp payment...

    i already filled this paperwork out last year...they discharged it because it was not my fault....their error...
    know they are coming at me again...

    i have been waiting for my $$$ for my son...just received a check april 6th for march..for 462...so that is supposed to be the on going amount until he finishes high school...

    then i went to ssa office on wednesday...the man said now they sai i owe 860 to ssa....i do not know why know...

    i havent' seen the paperwork on that...

    i just want to throw the towel in today....

    i thought great gonna hopefully move out of my old apartment...i had to fill out a large packet, run down to da's office to get print out of my child suppor/spousal support history...

    run to the va office to history report...and tell they still haven stopped paying me...my part...becaue we are divorce...told him the ex supposedly contacted them and i know i contacted him...

    kicker is i ,,,brain fog,,,,,,oh welll

    i'll remember later..

    thanks for reading...

    jodie


  2. NyroFan

    NyroFan New Member

    Jodie:
    Brain fog you say? Time to put the brakes on! You deserve a break today and a good time to rest and then rest some more.
    I admire your stamina today: a job well done. With all in place, see what happens next. Take a good breather, hon.

    hugs,
    NyroFan
  3. 69mach1

    69mach1 New Member

    i finally have the tears coming down now...i have a friend who owes me some money...i will probably never get it..i pray she does the right thing,,,i will never ever do it again...nothing in writing.. snyways

    i am thinking about c/s...i have an attorney appt. on 5/10...key is if he gets wind he very well may stay uneemployed because he can live very lucratively from the cash he makes doing security at bars...strip bars are even more money...i'll nev3er see any of it...

    so if i am so lucky to get this new apt...i have to sign a 12 month lease...my ssdi will cover the rent....i have a little money left...but i worry to know end...after having to be on food stamps and tanf about 4 yeears ago for less than a year...but for 3 years my savings was depleted and had to sell my 69 mach 1 mustang...for less than it really was worth...

    well i have to call the apt office and see ifmy credit is approved...i have bk on it from 99..because of the ex and his dui court charges...another damage done to me for no good reason that i have to pay fro as well...

    anwyays...i am thinking about getting a job to supplement the ssdi for less than sga amount...that will help...my son said he was thinking about getting a summer job...so that will help some...i do not want him to have to pay from room and board he is only 16...not his job...i know he would just to stay at his high school...i just want him to continue doing well in school, and sports...hand so far has said no to drugs, alcohol and sex...i'm lucky that way///

    jodie

    i'll update you later

    thank yo for your suppoort
  4. rockgor

    rockgor Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear about your financial woes. It is an unjust world when some have billions and others starve. I would say more, but I guess certain comments are not suitable here.

    I hope you get a lucky break soon.
  5. 69mach1

    69mach1 New Member

    i got a phone call from apt leasing manager this morning, she said my credit application was approved but i have to meet w/her on sunday at 1 to start step two....employment verication...then i am not sure what step three is...

    my ex came and got our son...he really irritatied me on things he was saying...

    telling me how he thinks he picked the wrong job to get into...and they told him he would be working all the time..
    pipefitter/steamfitter...

    then proceed to tell me how he was thinking maybe he should go to alcohol rehab for 3 months one of the really nice ones that has pools and maybe he would find a nice porn star there...oh i was pissed about that one...he did say he was just getting...

    he did ask me what i have been up to...told him looking for apt..having difficult time for the income is too low...

    giggi i am a bitter woman when it comes to this...went from not needing anything owning new vechiles money in the bank, ira's ans stocks...collector cars...i had to sell mine because of no child support for three years...streaing...i used up my savings...filing for ssdi...had to go on welfare at the age of 38...and i will never forget the feeling that day...

    then he was living w/stripper/working as pipefitter, union covering his butt so they didn't take money out for child support...plus he was an apt. manager had 3 bedroom apt... and cody and i had nearly been evicted a couple of times...

    i have a counslor appt on tuesday...

    oh yeah the ex said he is not an alcoholic, i rolled my eyes and said whatever...then he asked how many drunk calls have you had lately...it's been a couple of months...

    i said i'm not living w.you and it's not my problems anymore...

    well i am hanging in there... thank you for asking...

    at least i may be moving...and i think i may get in touch w/local edd lady that helps disabled people find jobs and make sure they have the proper equiptment to perform there job...

    my understanding if i keep it under 830 month it will not affect my ssdi...so this will give cody and i some extra mopney...i just hope my body will hold up...and my mind...

    how do i stop feeling like the ex ruined my life? we always lived in a house and had things money...and yes i worked as well...but i guess i have to think about is it worth my time thinking negavitvely...

    but he blamed cody for him getting an aol loetter of collection...he said how did he think he could do that....?cody said that...i said it was your bill goes to yoru address or computer, cody said jenn, the stripper said she turned it off....dad says then why does it have yoru emal address on it.... cody said because jen the stripper said he had to have his own screen....

    well jen the stripper has been using my ex's ss# fraduantly for jobs, pg&e and who knows what else...

    so momma jodie, step in and said you're the one that allowed that stripper whore to handle your finances and i have to worry that she may use mine or cody's number's because you had you be all involved in our divorce matters...

    she was his acting attorney...he was stupid...she doesn't even have her high school diploma...she instigated alot of things between the both of us...that were not true...

    anwyas...i blame him for allowing her to even be invlolved...

    sorry this is so long....

    thank you for asking...i plan on talking to him about him disrespecting me talking about porn stars and other women ...i left some out..

    i don't knwo if he is trying to hit on me or what...

    jodie
  6. 69mach1

    69mach1 New Member

    if he didn't call into the child support office and tell him where he is working i wouldn't get a darn thing...they just make alot of red tape promises....

    jodie
  7. KateMac329

    KateMac329 New Member

    Hi sweetheart,
    I have to be honest and say I have no idea at all what to say to you about this situation!

    I have never been in this situation so I don't know how to relate but I do want you to know that I am sorry you are going through this!

    I just can't imagine how stressful everything is for you!

    I mean my goodness, you have such a good heart and seem to keep it together pretty darn well for everything you are going through!

    You are a very strong woman! I MEAN that!!! I couldn't keep it together like you are with only half of the stuff.

    I really hope you do get to move into the new place and away from everything around you! You deserve it!!!

    (((HUGS)))

    I am sorry I couldn't really offer any real support but I am trying!

    kate
  8. 69mach1

    69mach1 New Member

    you would be surprised what you will do for your child and how can do it....it just stinks that you you went from working and furthering yourself in a new direction of a different career..then get the ex saying i love you but i think i want a divorce and i don't know why...hmm....couldn't be he was cheating and his bipolar stuff was kicking in again...and found himself in a mess again..

    he left 75 miles away from his son to live a 25 yr. old stripper who of course burned him...slept w/his so called good friend who was living w/his children and mother of his children....

    hey they are still friends...

    the whole idea was we were all moving ot san jose while he went to his pipefitter apprentice school/job..paid good money...benefits...i was told all this 4 days away from my state exam..i scored 69% i needed 70% for my r.e. license in california...i have a license in virginia but it is not reciprocal here...

    i am still trying to get better and pursue this..but now it looks like i am going to need to find a job to make ends meet..fro rent is expensive here...and my ssdi will only cover the rent and pay utilites nothing for food...

    oh well something will work out...and if it doesn't then i just may need to back up and move back to michigan...family(siblings),,parents consider me dead i hear..

    well i hope i get my apt. and move in may...

    how are you?


    jodie
  9. 69mach1

    69mach1 New Member

    yes your poor girls...mine only owes me over 18k now...i sure could use the money...some men just don't get it....

    new case worker for you...

    i left message for mine a couple of weeks ago...so that the state will pay my medicare premimum and the ssa is taking the money out of my monthly check,,,

    i think i will be needing to call my worker again...better yet go down there...

    iknow i filled out the paper work to have state pay it for me...

    well gonna go takesome excedrine...and i have to do some paperwork...i was stupid and loaned a friend money and will i need it and she said she was going to pay me back...

    never again for me...

    i will probably end up trying to get some sort of a job so i can make it...i am just mad because i wanted to get my schooling done or soemthing...i can not do both...

    jodie