Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by sarahm19, Jul 20, 2006.

  1. sarahm19

    sarahm19 New Member

    This is sooo crazy. The gym director at my college just sent me an email that said because i look like my body weight is so low, i cant come back to the gym any more.

    #1 i have tons of health problems (rsd, fibromyalgia, digestive disorders) which is why im a low weight but i still need to exercise to make the rsd/fibro feel better
    #2 i AM steadily gaining weight
    #3 they have no legal documentation that says they can kick someone out for weight
    #4 why dont they kick everyone on steriods out, i could literally name members but they dont care

  2. rosemarie

    rosemarie Member

    That is so dumb that you were kicked out of a gym because your to small? And that you still have to pay for yoor not atteneding it. I would call them up and demand that they either let you work out as you have health problems that have caused your weight loss and that your gaining wieght . Tell them that you need to keep up a exercise program for oyou health connnditions. And if they don't let you come back demand that they refund all of your money from DAY 1 as it is not fair that they will not let you work out.

    Don't let them walk over you tell them that you want your money back and from the day that they told you that you could not work out.

    GOOD LUCK and hugs,
  3. IndianPrincess

    IndianPrincess New Member

    Yep, get an attorney or better yet and it will get immediate results - contact your local TV station!

    Seems like your civil rights have been violated!

    Where do they get their money? Federal? Also contact Job Accommodation Network. Get advice!

    Sarah, where do you go to school? If you don't want to say the school, where is it? Or are you just using the facility?

    [This Message was Edited on 07/20/2006]
  4. sarahm19

    sarahm19 New Member

    i dont know how to get a lawyer and i dont have any $. I could try to contact a tv station. My parents are like "just wait and see if your doctor will send you a note in the mail" which is gonna be forever. And i dont have a doctor that is treating my RSD or Fibro anymore, (he left) so i just have this gastroenterologist, who literally asked me if i was anorexic and i said NO NO NO.

    Im 5'7, 100lbs. I KNOW that is underweight, but i am gaining and im seriously mad about my legal rights here.
  5. kriskwon

    kriskwon New Member

    I used to teach out of a gym and this makes no sense. Even for someone that is severely underweight, everyone needs at least a little exercise to keep their heart healthy. I think they think you might have an eating disorder, but that reason, by no means is grounds to kick you out.

    If your in there running for 60 min or taking spinning classes, that might send a signal. But if you walk on the treadmill at a brisk pace and defintely lift some weights (best way to put some muscle weight on), they don't know what they are talking about. Go somewhere else (after you get your money returned) or buy some weights and a treadmill and do it at home.

  6. NyroFan

    NyroFan New Member

    Why not go to the dean?

    It is worth a try.

    Best to you because you are trying your very best.

  7. sarahm19

    sarahm19 New Member

    san diego state university

    im positive they think im anorexic but im not. Im trying to get some doctor to sign something but cant find one that will.
  8. jjdg

    jjdg New Member

    Your civil rights have been violated,your school gets money from the gov. they can lose that money if you file civil rights against them,i threatend a school in Fla. with that and they kissed my butt evrytime i went in ther for a meeting.check it out.good luck
  9. IndianPrincess

    IndianPrincess New Member

    whether or not you have anorexia is NOT a basis for them to discriminate against you because of your weight.

    This is a STATE university and YOU ARE PAYING tuition and THEY ARE RECEIVING government funding.

    Copy that e-mail, send it with a certified letter to the dean and all administrators and tell them you want retribution. Also send copies to your senator, congressman AND governor (ESPECIALLY YOU GOVERNOR-A FORMER MR. UNIVERSE and BODYBUILDER).

    Contact the media too. I'm very serious about this!


    Keep us posted!

    Please keep us posted.
  10. sarahm19

    sarahm19 New Member

    And I love all of you from the BOTTOM OF MY HEART for your support! I cant tell you how wonderful it is to feel like someone is on my side and believes me, and cares. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. What I did is print the emails and the entire membership book. In it, I highlighted everything that talks about safety or membership...basically all it says is that you are responsible for watching out for youurself there! So i am waliking in tomorrow morning with this in my hand "the whole time im working out" - suggests my boyfriend. :) And I'll tell you what happens soon.

    Im really really really thankful to you because this is a very emotional issue for me. Its not about my weight to me. I AM gaining weight, and literally 3 people have told me that today, 2 people told me that yesterday! Its clear. But to me, its about being believed. This brings back a really painful memory: before i got the RSD diagnosis, i was bedridden (both legs were in stabbing pain) and i was laying there crying....i didnt know what to say but my mom (and several doctors) didnt believe me and told me to stop faking it. When i got the diagnosis, it was like IN YOUR FACE! IM NOT LYING! And i have to remember that people like you guys are going through these same struggles every day.... whatever happens, God will get me through it.

    You've successfully stopped my tears tonight.
  11. rockyjs

    rockyjs Member

    Every college has a disability services office or something with a similar name. I would definitely contact them about this issue.

    I am also 5'7" and most of my life weighed between 90 and 110 pounds. I was constantly accused of being anorexic and it is so frustrating. We now know that I had three genetic diseases causing the problems.

    After I improved I became a personal trainer and when I was interviewing for a job, one health club told me they didn't want me working with disabled clients because that would hurt the image they were trying to convey!!!

  12. kriket

    kriket New Member


  13. PVLady

    PVLady New Member

    If you cannot get a doctor to agree to sign a note maybe they feel exercising would burn calories you need.

    I know you want the exercise but it sounds like everyone is concerned about your health. Maybe if you can put on a few lbs things will change.

    Hope things get better...[This Message was Edited on 07/20/2006]
  14. LittleBluestem

    LittleBluestem New Member

    I was thin, though not underweight, most of my adult life (5‘4“, 100 -110 lbs). It always annoyed me when someone would tell me that I did not need to exercise, since I was so thin. It is quite possible to be thin and out of shape.

    Thin people still need to maintain cardiovascular fitness. Thin people still need to maintain flexibility. Thin people still need to maintain bone density. In fact, since I have a small frame, the bone density issue is probably more important for me than for a sturdier person.


    PVLady has a very good point in that if you are underweight, you need to balance the use of calories for exercise with the use of calories for weight gain, especially if your digestive disorders are limiting your food consumption.

    The college gym would probably be more cooperative if you were under a doctor's care and had an exercise program developed by your doctor. Start with your student health service. I doubt that they will have anyone knowledgeable about FM or RSD, but if they refer you to an outside specialist, your student health insurance may pay for it.
  15. Bruin63

    Bruin63 Member

    That's a little saying that I use a lot, as I get that You must be Anorxia, no, I am just thin.

    I too, get a lot of grief from people, about this, as I am 5'71/2" and I have a tendency to go from 105lbs to 115lbs , at any given time.

    When I am stressing, I drop 5 lb's over night it seem's.
    I was recently down to 108 and was getting worried, but I weighed myself the other day at the Dr.s office, and Yea, I am back up to 110.

    Don't let it Stress, you, as you are still a Young Women, and a lot of People were slim when they were Younger.
    Some of us gain weight and some of us are Underweight.

    (according to who tho?)

    Excerising, is good, but you still need to be careful, as anyone would, and do drink lots of water before and after excerising.

    Do you dance at all?
    I was a Dancer, but, back then, the late 60's, They liked girls with some Flesh on them, I was 120 back then, and looking at my "Old Photo's, I don't look, that skinny.

    Being this Thin tho, does make me look Older than I am, and I think, it's because of the Muscle mass that I lost, when I first Dropped, 70lbs, during my first Flare, back in "96".
    I was 190lbs then.

    So enjoy being Thin, as long, as it is your Body Type.
    It could change when you age, like it did me.
    Untill I got Sick, that is.

    I also have FMS/CMPD/RSD/RLS which I think flared after I quit dancing.
    I also hav OA all through my body, and that can affect my weight too.
    The IBS & IBD are a problem too.

    Be Sure and talk to the Disabled Students Counsler's, as I see by a past post, that you went through them, to enter College (? did I read that right?).

    Good luck to you, and do let us know what happens.

    Also you said you didn't know how to contact a Lawyer, check with your Student Union, I believe they can help you with that also.

    [This Message was Edited on 07/21/2006]
  16. mlrarr

    mlrarr New Member

    you should go to the dean. I would keep going up and up until you find out why. ALWAYS ASK FOR THEIR RESPONSE IN WRITING!!! Take any documents that shows you paid for the class.
    You get to take what you pay for!!!
  17. TXFMmom

    TXFMmom New Member

    Many anorexics and bulemics OVEREXERCISE, to keep their weight down, and they are afraid that you may suffer from this, and would be contributing to it.

    Go have a face to face discussion with them and address the problem.

  18. carebelle

    carebelle New Member

    When I was young I had people ask me all the time if I was anorexic. I have the other problem now I cant loose weight.

    I think I would say to your teacher ,Dean and student affairs President something like this:
    Look I realize I am very thin and I do have health issues. If you do not want me in this class then HELP me to design a class for People like me who still need exercise to get healthy.

    Do not discriminate against us Help us. Maybe everyone can learn from this .Maybe this could be a project for seniors who are looking to Grad. with a degree to teach health,Gym or Physical training.
    Become a leader in this its your turn to shine take control and do not settle for a no.

    I would challenge the school to face the problem with you and find a solution for all of you.

    Good luck let us know what happends

  19. zion1971

    zion1971 New Member

    hi sarahm19

    i am very thin too. actually i have gained about 25 pounds over the past 2 years. so i now weigh 134 and am 5'5" tall. the thing is i look like i weigh much less. i would probably need to weigh around 155lbs. just to look like a "normal" weight. when i was much younger people would ask me about being anorexic. the most hurtful thing was when a family member said i looked like i was taking crack. i have never been able to gain weight easily. if i go into a bad flare though i can lose 15 pounds in a week. hang in there and focus on your health. that is most important. trust me, it is possible to be very thin and gain healthy weight. it is hard but possible.
  20. Kinsie

    Kinsie New Member

    I never thought it was anybody's business how another person looks. I guess next, they will be kicking people out of places if they aren't pretty enough.

    I understand what some posters have said about the school just going their job, but to me when you can be kicked out of anything because of your looks, I would think that was some kind of discrimination.

    There has always been "skinny" people. It's just that most of us are no where near skinny, so it make you stand out!!! Don't I wish I had that problem!!

    I wouldn't let it lie, I'd have to talk to someone in charge.


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