Vaginal Spasms/Painful Intercourse.

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Frackie11382, Apr 5, 2003.

  1. Frackie11382

    Frackie11382 New Member

    Hey all,

    Just wanted to know if anyone ever has really painful vaginal spasms? Also, is intercourse/sex painful for you? Me, I've noticed that no matter how much lubrication I have, when he first inserts, I have pain. Not b/c I don't WANT to do anything with him, but it's just there. After a second or two, it goes away. My boyfriend has been very considerate and tries to be gentle, but that has no bearing on anything! And I could kind of understand if it happened EVERY time, but it's only for, like, a week then quits for a couple then starts again. The vaginal spasms make this problem worse, but they're USUALLY only around the week before my period, so I think that's hormonal. Anyways, I was just looking for some reassurance tht I'm not alone, and am willing to take suggestions. Thanks a bunch.

    Friends in Fibro,

    ~~Tara~~
  2. kmelodyg

    kmelodyg New Member

    Frackie,

    Could you be more specific? It only happens the week before your period? Where is the pain located? In the back of your vagina near your cervix? Or the initial entrance? I am just asking because I have had similar problems. I don't mean to get too graphic, but my last boyfriend had a very large penis and I had a horrible time when we made love. The pain was always in the back near the cervix and it was very random. It did not matter when in my cycle that we had intercourse. My doctor seemed to think that it was caused by endometriosis. I was told by many doctors that it does not matter about the size of the penis. A woman's vagina should be able to expand to any size penis, we can give birth to an 8 lb. baby! But I disagree. Now my new boyfriend is a different story. Emotionally and physically. We are very open about our sex life which helps alot. We talk about everything. For the first time in my life I can actually enjoy sex without worrying about how much pain I will be in during and after it. There are many reasons why you may be experiencing pain during intercourse. I have done quite a bit of research on this subject. It had alot to do with ending my last relationship of 6 years. You should definately discuss this with your doctor and be examined. It may be caused by an infection or hormones, or many other possibilities. And it could also be caused by the fibro as well. Let me know what the other details are and I will see if I can give you any other insights. I know how frustrating it can be on you and your relationdhip. I have definately been there myself. Hang in there and try to communicate with your man as much as you can. I hope that you find your answers and solutions soon.

    Kathryn
  3. kmelodyg

    kmelodyg New Member

    Frackie,

    Could you be more specific? It only happens the week before your period? Where is the pain located? In the back of your vagina near your cervix? Or the initial entrance? I am just asking because I have had similar problems. I don't mean to get too graphic, but my last boyfriend had a very large penis and I had a horrible time when we made love. The pain was always in the back near the cervix and it was very random. It did not matter when in my cycle that we had intercourse. My doctor seemed to think that it was caused by endometriosis. I was told by many doctors that it does not matter about the size of the penis. A woman's vagina should be able to expand to any size penis, we can give birth to an 8 lb. baby! But I disagree. Now my new boyfriend is a different story. Emotionally and physically. We are very open about our sex life which helps alot. We talk about everything. For the first time in my life I can actually enjoy sex without worrying about how much pain I will be in during and after it. There are many reasons why you may be experiencing pain during intercourse. I have done quite a bit of research on this subject. It had alot to do with ending my last relationship of 6 years. You should definately discuss this with your doctor and be examined. It may be caused by an infection or hormones, or many other possibilities. And it could also be caused by the fibro as well. Let me know what the other details are and I will see if I can give you any other insights. I know how frustrating it can be on you and your relationdhip. I have definately been there myself. Hang in there and try to communicate with your man as much as you can. I hope that you find your answers and solutions soon.

    Kathryn
  4. klutzo

    klutzo New Member

    This sounds like a condition strongly associated with Fibromyalgia, known as Vulvar Vestibulitis. The symptoms are exactly as you describe, severe pain upon entry that goes away later on. It can get so bad that you can't do it at all, or so bad that you can't even sit down without crying.
    Try to get yourself in a position with a good light and a mirror and examine yourself....is there a red ring around the opening and especially toward the bottom? That is the classic appearance of Vulvar vestibulitis.
    You need to see a GYN specialist who can diagnose it for you by doing a deep tissue scraping around the vulvar opening. Treatment, if there is any, will depend upon what is found in the scraping.
    Do NOT agree to surgery...it has not proven helpful at all, despite what doctors who get paid to do it may tell you.
    You can do a websearch for "Vulvodynia" and find lots of info about this.
    A pain deadening xylocaine cream may help in treatment resistant cases, but there is no cure.
    My husband and I struggled with this for about 8 yrs. and then we just gave up. I would cry during, sometimes almost passing out from pain ,and then I'd limp for 2 days afterwards, and he felt like a sadist.
    If you are very young, giving up is not a good option, so you may want to investigate more agressive treatments, like injections of Interfuron.
    You have my empathy and I hope you can get some good help,
    Klutzo
    [This Message was Edited on 04/06/2003]
  5. spazmonkey

    spazmonkey New Member

    I have the same problem! It started a long time ago. I remember i had sex one time with this guy and jumped off of him, screaming on the floor in complete pain. I've been to the emergency room numerous times for abdominal pain, chronic yeast infections, vaginitis, pelvic inflammotory disease. Then about five years ago, i had an abortion which is when the majority of my fibro symptoms started. I had the PID even worse after that because of infection.

    I've been with my boyfriend now for 5 years. I have alot of pain when he touches my clitoris some times, it gets very sensitive to the touch. Then when I feel like im going to have an orgasm (this is very graphic but im wondering if anyone else has the same problem)-its like my body wants to but all my abdominal/pelvic muscles clench up and i feel like im just going to pee everywhere-so embarassing. So i have to stop. And then just sex in itself is painful-my boyfriend isn't too big so the size isn't the problem (but i am very tiny). It's around the same time that i have irritable bladder problems-i have to pee every five minutes it seems like. I think i have alot of spasming going on in this region. And your right, it seems to happen right before my period.

    Im wondering if it's endometriosis that is causing this. It's wierd too, because i have a huge cyst on my abdomen that's a little hard, and i have one on the bottom of my butt that is a little fatty. I heard that its rare, but in endometriosis some of the tissue can form on other parts of the body as well....
  6. Reg1

    Reg1 New Member

    Hi Frackie, Yes I know exactly what kinda pain youre talking about. I have experienced that pain for some time, even before i was dx. Of course now i have a hysterectomy, and i still have it. Sometimes mine is soooooo bad i cant even walk. I posted about the same subject approximately a month ago. If you go to my profile, maybe you can read some of my responses. My OB/GYN says its Fibro related. But then isn't everything we go thru??????????? Gentle Hugs)))))))))))))))) Reg
    PS And yes intercourse is sometimes painful, espespcially when inserted all the way in, i know this is gross, but we are all human and need to know these things. I just hope it gets better for us. And yes i do have a very understanding hubby. Again Peace to you my friend. Reg[This Message was Edited on 04/06/2003]
  7. tiredTina

    tiredTina New Member

    There are so many DD's associated with fibro, and Klutzo you were right on the money with the vulvodynia; but you should look into more than that! Spazmonkey talked about the feeling of having to pee, and that as well as vaginal spasms can be caused by interstitial cystits. Fibro, IC, Vulvodynia, Irritable bowel syndrome,and chronic fatigue syndrome are all intertwined! You may have a combo platter as I do! I have fibro, IC, IBS, and possibly CFS....there are some great sites on IC that go into the combonation of diseases. I hope this helps some, and let me know if there's any more info you need! Good luck!
    Tina
  8. Frackie11382

    Frackie11382 New Member