Venting harsh truths

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Michelle_NZ, Aug 30, 2006.

  1. Michelle_NZ

    Michelle_NZ New Member

    I normally don't type negative posts, but I'm feeling really cynical today.. these are some harsh truths I've learned since getting sick this year. Do other people feel the same way?

    Harsh truth #1

    Most people when they ask "How are you?" are not interested in the answer, unless it is a simple "Fine thanks, how are you?" They cannot cope with anymore than this. They find it boring.

    Harsh truth #2

    Most people do not care about anyone other than themselves. The number one reason for this is that they are too busy to care. They may give you a fleeting thought.. but that is all. Things to do, places to go and all that.

    Harsh truth #3

    The people you think will be there for you in your time of need are not necessarily the people that will be there for you when that time comes. Some people are not capable of anything more than having good times.

    Harsh truth #4

    Most doctors are useless when it comes to anything other than a cold or a broken bone. If I had a dollar for every time I was offered antidepressants I would be fabulously wealthy.

    Harsh truth #5

    Life is completely and utterly unfair. Yes, I know, this is obvious and everyone knows it right? Well, even if you think you've pulled the wool over lifes' eyes, and gotten off pretty good... well life always has the final say, and things can change in the blink of an eye.
  2. toughone

    toughone New Member

    Sounds like you're having the Summer I've had. And just when I take two steps forward, I jump three leaps back. But you know what? I still get up every morning and start fresh because I'll be damned if I'm gonna let the bad times win! I'm fed up with letting Fibro steal what once was me--I've been living with 10 pain since May and I'm still fighting back. I'm worn out, but I'm still fighting!

    Don't let people or circumstances get you down for too long--if you're on this board you've been surviving worse stuff than anything people throw your way!

    Get a good nights sleep (if you can--I sleep about 3 hours a night) and I hope you will feel a little brighter in the morning. If not--post again-I'll be looking for you!

    Gentle hugs and best wishes...

    Bonny
  3. petsrme

    petsrme Member

    Hi Michelle. I looked at your profile and saw your picture. You are beautiful and your doggie is so cute.

    I mostly agree with all that you said. They are harsh truths but realistic. There are some exceptions though, thank goodness. One thing I have found is that the only person I can always, really count on is me. Sometimes I can't even count on my body, but I let it have a break. I hope you are feeling better tomorrow. If you need to talk let us know.
  4. Marta608

    Marta608 Member

    I hear you, Michelle. I've had days like that. Still, could we try this?

    #1. "How are you?" is a way we in society have learned to greet each other, period.

    #2. Many people are self-centered because they're afraid that if they don't take care of themselves, no one else will. It's always such a joy to find the few that can multi-task.

    #3. This is God or the Universe's way of helping us find true friends.

    #4. Hmmmm..... Hard one. How about, Most doctors were schooled in Western medicine and that's no longer adequate.

    #5. Here you're absolutely right. Yet life was never said to be fair; we only assumed that it was. The good news is that we have what it takes to handle it anyway.

    Hugs to you. I hope today is better.
    Marta
  5. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    I know people seem shallow all the time. Then I see the tremendous outpouring of support here on our boards and know that the people here MUST act the same way towards others in real life.

    This is why it is so wonderful to have this board as it reminds us there are CARING people in this world, even those in pain themselves, or perhaps one does need to know pain to appreciate it in others?

    Wamps: keep getting up each day-when my brother was visiting last week, he said the same thing to me, and now here he is fighting for his life because he now knows how wonderful even a painful life can be. It is often in the face of adversity we discover the truer meaning of life.

    Michelle, try not to let selfish people get you down. There are plenty, but there are also men and women and children of goodwill everywhere, including all those doctors and nurses who go out and work for free in terrible situations. We have to accentuate the better angels we see and hear about, even though it is so hard sometimes to find them in this "me" society. I hear what you are saying, it has gotten to me often and it is good to vent about it now and then.

    Much love, Anne
  6. Michelle_NZ

    Michelle_NZ New Member

    Thankyou for your kind words, and letting me vent!

    As many of you said, there are good and kind people in the world too - and I am lucky that I do have a few of those around me too.

    Take care
    Michelle
  7. jole

    jole Member

    Bad days have us all feeling the very same way. But then again, we "really" know the world is not the way it seems. I look at my family - they love me dearly, but this world is moving at such a breakneck speed that even "normal" people don't have the time or energy to spend on those who need it.

    And as a former nurse, I can say that there is no excuse for the young docs to come out of school so totally oblivious to our DD, but the older ones were not taught it, and as above, have hectic schedules with not much time left for keeping up on anything they don't HAVE to. I think our DD is one they see can be left to the specialists.

    Unfortunately, everyone passes the buck and we fall through the cracks. Not just us though, happens in the school systems with problem kids as well.

    We just need to continue our quest on our own - no, we don't have the strength, energy or mental capacity most days, but we do have the time - shucks! We know we would all rather be running around in this busy, dizzy world than sitting here in pain too exhausted and foggy to think. But we deal with the present, thank God for what we do have, and pray for the strength to reach the next "better" day.

    Friends -
    Jole
  8. JewelRA

    JewelRA New Member

    Sounds like you're pretty much on track with all of them.

    #4 is what has disturbed me the most lately. I am SO sick of doctors offering antidepressants for everything from a sore throat to your being a little upset because your goldfish died that morning. Doctors are handing out mind-altering drugs like they are candy for conditions that they are not approved for, and then they are not held responsible when that person's life and brain are permanently altered.

    OK, I'll get off my soapbox. Can you tell I am still reeling from AD withdrawal and a little testy about it? Can you? Huh? Huh?

    :p~